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அல்-குர்ஆனின் அத்தாட்சிகள் ஸம் ஸம் தண்ணீர்( இதை விட ஒரு அதிசயம் இல்லை)

இதை பார்த்து ஒருவர் இஸ்லாத்தை தழுவலாம் இன்ஷா அல்லாஹ் பார்ப்பவர்
பகிர்த்து கொள்ள மறவாதீர்
இப்ராஹீம் நபி அவர்கள் தமது மனைவி ஹாஜர் அவர்களையும் மகன்
இptஸ்மாயீலையும்அப்போது மக்கள் குடியிருக்காத வெட்ட வெளியில் இறைவனின்
கட்டளைப்படி குடியமர்த்தினார். குழந்தை இஸ்மாயீல் தண்ணீரின்றி தத்தளித்த
போது வானவர் ஜிப்ரீல் வந்து அந்த இடத்தில் அடித்து ஒரு நீருற்றை
ஏற்படுத்தினார்,அது தான் ஜம்ஜம் எனும் கிணறாகும்.
இந்தக் கிணறு மாபெரும் அற்புதமாக இஸ்லாம் உண்மை மார்க்கம் என்பதை
நிரூபிக்கும் சான்றாக இருக்கிறது.
கிணற்றின் அளவு
இந்தக் கிணறு 18 அடி அகலமும் 14 அடி நீளமும் கொண்டதாகும்.
இந்தக் கிணற்றில் தண்ணீரின் ஆழம் எப்போதும் சுமார் ஐந்து அடியாகும்.
இந்தக் கிணற்றில் இருந்து ஒவ்வொரு விநாடியும் தண்ணீர்
இறைக்கப்பட்டுக்கொண்டே உள்ளது. வருடத்தின் எல்லா நாட்களிலும் மக்கள்
அங்கே குழுமுகிறார்கள். ஹஜ் காலத்திலும் ரமலான் மாதத்திலும் சுமார் 20
லட்சம் மக்கள் அங்கே குழுமுகிறார்கள். அனைவருக்கும் இந்தக் கிணற்றில்
இருந்து தான் குடிநீர் வினியோகிக்கப்படுகிறது.
ஒவ்வொருவரும் 20 லிட்டருக்குக் குறையாமல் அந்தத் தண்ணீரைத் தமது சொந்த
ஊருக்கும் எடுத்துச் செல்கிறார்கள்.
குறைந்த ஆளம் உள்ள இந்தக் கிணறு, பாலைவனத்தில் அமந்துள்ள இந்தக் கிணறு,
அருகில் ஏரிகளோ கண்மாய்களோ குளம் குட்டைகளோ இல்லாத அந்தக் கிணற்றில்
இருந்து எப்படி லட்சோப லட்சம் மக்களுக்கு தண்ணீர் வழங்கப்படுகிறதுஎன்பது
முதலாவது அற்புதமாகும்.
எந்த ஊற்றாக இருந்தாலும் சில வருடங்களிலோ பல வருடங்களிலோ செயலிழந்து போய்
விடும். ஆனால் இந்த ஊற்று பல ஆயிரம் ஆண்டுகளாக வற்றாமல் இருப்பது
இரண்டாவது அற்புதமாகும்.
எந்த ஒரு நீர் நிலையாக இருந்தாலும் பாசி படிந்து போவதும் கிருமிகள்
உற்பத்தியவதும் இயற்கை. இதனால் தான் குளோரின் போன்ற மருதுகள் நீர்
நிலைகளில் கலக்கப்படுகின்றன. ஆனால் ஜம்ஜம் தண்ணீரில் அது உற்பத்தியான
காலம் முதல் இன்று வரை எந்த மருதுகள் மூலமும் அது பாதுக்காக்கப்படாமல்
தன்னைத் தானே பாதுகாத்துக் கொள்வது மூன்றாவது அற்புதமாகும்.
மருந்துகளால் பாதுகாக்கப்படாததண்ணீர் குடிப்பதற்கு ஏற்றதாக இருக்காது
என்பது அறிவியலின் முடிவாகும். ஆனால் இந்தத் தண்ணீர் 1971 ஆம் ஆண்டு
ஐரோப்பிய சோதனைச் சாலையில் சோதித்துப் பார்க்கப்பட்ட போது இது
குடிப்பதற்கு மிகவும் ஏற்ற நீர் என்று நிருபிக்கப்பட்டது.
பொதுவாக மற்ற நீரில் இருந்து ஜம்ஜம் தண்ணீர் வேறுபட்டுள்ளதும் சோதனையில்
தெரிய வந்துள்ளது. கால்ஷியம் மற்றும் மேக்னீஷியம் எனும் உப்பு மற்ற வகை
தண்ணீரை விட ஜம்ஜம் தண்ணீரில் அதிகமாக உள்ளது. இந்த உப்புக்கள்
புத்துணர்ச்சியைக் கொடுக்கக் கூடியவை. இதை அனுபவத்தில் உணரலாம். மேலும்
இந்தத் தண்ணீரில் ஃபுளோரைடு உள்ளது. இது கிருமிகளை அழிக்க வல்லது. அங்கே
அற்புதம் நடக்கிறது இங்கே அற்புதம் நடக்கிறது என்றெல்லாம் பலவாறான
நம்பிக்கை மக்கள் மத்தியில் நிலவுகிறது. அது போல் இதையும் கருதக் கூடாது.
மற்ற அற்புதங்கள் எல்லாம் எந்த சோதனைக்கும் உட்படுத்தப்படாதவை.
நிருபிக்கப்டாமல் குருட்டு நம்பிக்கையை அடிப்படையாகக் கொண்டவை. ஆனால்
தினசரி 20 லட்சம் மக்களுக்கு அந்தத் தண்ணீர் குடி நீராகப் பயன்படுவதும்,
பாலைவனத்தில் இந்த அதிசயம் பல்லாயிரம் ஆண்டுகள் நடந்து வருவதும் எல்லாவித
சோதனைக்கும் உட்படுத்தப்பட்டு நிரூபிக்கப்பட்டு உள்ளதால் இது மெய்யான
அற்புதமாகும். இது போன்ற அற்புதம் உலகில் இது ஒன்று தான் என்பதில்
சிறிதும் சந்தேகம் இல்லை ..

Dua for PROTECTION from Allah's ANGER, punishment, DEVILS and EVIL PEOPLE- ''I seek refuge in the Perfect Words of Allah from His anger and His punishment, from the evil of His slaves and from the taunts of devils and from their presence.'' A'oothu bikalimaatil-laahit-taammaati min ghadhabihi wa 'iqaabihi, wa sharri 'ibaadihi, wa min hamazaatish-shayaateeni wa 'an yahdhuroon Read this if you are afraid to go to sleep or feel lonely and depressed. You should read this dua if you see a bad dream. Abu Dawud 4/12. See also Al-Albani, Sahih At- Tirmidhi 3/171.

Dua for PROTECTION from Allah's ANGER, punishment, DEVILS and EVIL PEOPLE
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''I seek refuge in the Perfect Words of Allah from His anger and His
punishment, from the evil of His slaves and from the taunts of devils
and from their presence.''
A'oothu bikalimaatil-laahit-taammaati min ghadhabihi wa 'iqaabihi, wa
sharri 'ibaadihi, wa min hamazaatish-shayaateeni wa 'an yahdhuroon
Read this if you are afraid to go to sleep or feel lonely and depressed.
You should read this dua if you see a bad dream.
Abu Dawud 4/12. See also Al-Albani, Sahih At- Tirmidhi 3/171.

For children, - Islam and Greed

A store that sells husbands has just opened in Nairobi, where a woman
may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is
a description of how the store operates. You may visit the store ONLY
ONCE!
There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the
shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch . You may
choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a
floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building! So, a
woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband...
On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men
have jobs and love the Lord.
The second floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the
Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the
Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads: Floor 4 - These men have
jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help
with the housework.
"Oh mercy me" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!" Still, she goes
to the fifth floor and sign reads: Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love
the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework,
and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the
sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012 to this floor. There
are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women
are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you
exit the building, and have a nice day!

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* The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"If a
woman performs the five )obligatory( prayers, fasts the month )of
Ramadan(, maintains her chastity and obeys her husband, )on the Day of
Judgment( it will be said to her, 'Enter Paradise from whichever gate
you like'."]Ibn Hibbaan[ ]Al-Albaani: Saheeh[
* The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"O
company of women! Give charity even from your ornaments, for you
constitute the majority of the people of Hell on the Day of
Judgment."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
* The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, further
said:"I advise you )O women( to adhere to Tasbeeh )to say 'Exalted be
Allaah'(, Tahleel )to say 'there is none worthy of worship except
Allaah'(, and Taqdees )to say 'Exalted be )Allaah( The Sovereign, The
Pure, Exalted and Pure be the Lord of angels and Holy spirit'(, and
count with the help of your fingers, for they will be questioned and
made to speak )to give witness to you(, and be not heedless )of Thikr
-- remembrance( lest you would forget )to seek( mercy."]Abu Daawood
and At-Tirmithi[
* It was narrated that the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, asked a woman of the Ansaar )Helpers( called Umm Sinaan:"What
prevented you from performing Hajj with us?"She replied, "There were
only two camels used for carrying water owned by so-and-so )meaning
her husband(. He and his son offered Hajj on one, and the other was
left to be used for irrigation." He said )to her(:"Then, 'Umrah )to be
offered( in Ramadan is equal )in reward( to Hajj or Hajj with
me."]Muslim[
* The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"May
Allaah have mercy upon a man who stands at night and offers
)supererogatory( prayers and then awakens his wife to offer prayer,
and if she refuses )to wake up(, he sprinkles water on her face; and
may Allaah have mercy upon a woman who stands at night and
offers)supererogatory( prayers and awakens her husband to offer
prayer, and if he refuses, she sprinkles water on his face."]Ahmad[
]Al-Albaani: Saheeh[
* It was narrated on the authority of Umm Humayd, the wife of Abu
Humayd As-Saa'idi, may Allaah be pleased with them, that she came to
the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and said, "'O Messenger of
Allaah! I like to offer prayers with you." He said:"I know that you
like to offer prayers with me; however, )you should know that( your
prayer in your sleeping place )inside your chamber( is better for you
than your prayer in your chamber; and your prayer in your chamber is
better for you than your prayer in your house; and your prayer in your
house is better for you than your prayer in the mosque of your people;
and your prayer in the mosque of your people is better for you than
your prayer in my mosque."]Ahmad[ ]Al-Albaani: Saheeh[
* It was narrated on the authority of 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased
with her, that she said, "I said, 'O Messenger of Allaah! We see that
Jihaad )struggle( is the best of deeds; should we not engage in
Jihaad?' He said,"For you )women(, the best act of Jihaad is to
perform Hajj that is accepted )by Allaah(."]Al-Bukhaari[
* It was said to the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, "'O
Messenger of Allaah! Such-and-such a woman prays at night, fasts by
day, does such-and-such good deeds and gives charity. However, she
harms her neighbors with her tongue.' On that the Messenger of Allaah,
sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"There is no good in her. She is
from the people of Hell."They further said, "And such-and-such a woman
performs only the )obligatory five( written prayers, and gives only
yogurt as charity. However, she harms no one." On that the Messenger
of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"She is from the
inhabitants of Paradise."]Al-Bukhaari: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad[ ]Al-Albaani:
Saheeh[
* The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"By the
One in whose hand the soul of Muhammad is! A woman will not fulfill
the right of her Lord )perfectly( unless she fulfills the right of her
husband fully; and if her husband asks her to have sexual intercourse
while sitting on the back of a camel, she should not prevent him )from
doing so(."]Ibn Maajah[ ]Al-Albaani: Hasan[
* The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"If a woman spends
)gives charity( from the foodstuff of her house but not wastefully,
she will have a reward for what she spent, her husband will have a
reward for what he earned, and the storekeeper the like of that,
without reducing anything from the reward of each other."]Al-Bukhaari[
* It was narrated on the authority of Al-Husayn ibn Mihsan that one of
his paternal aunts came to the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam, for a particular need, and when she finished her
need the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said to her:"Do you
have a husband?" She answered in the affirmative. He asked: "How are
you with him?"She said, "I am never negligent in fulfilling his right
except when I am incapable." On that, he said:"Then, regard your
position with him for he either leads you to Paradise or to
Hell."]Ahmad and Al-Haakim[ ]Al-Haakim and Ath-Thahabi: Saheeh[
* The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"No
trouble, fatigue, anxiety, sadness, harm or distress befalls a Muslim,
even a prick that he receives from a thorn, but that for which Allaah
forgives some of his sins."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
O Muslim sister, remember this Hadeeth )narration(, and hope for the
reward from Allaah The Almighty for whatever difficulties and troubles
you meet in your life, like pregnancy, post-partum bleeding, suckling,
raising children, menstruation, and so on, perchance your scale of
good deeds will be heavy, your sins will be forgiven, and your rank
will be elevated high in Paradise.

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Question
In your opinion, what are the primary problems of humanity?
Answer
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and
peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and
Companions.
Turning away from the Divine Guidance and straight path constitute the
main problem of humanity. Human beings lead a life full of caprices,
lusts and whims and ignore the wisdom behind their creation:, i.e.
they worship other than Allah and forget about Allah's worship, which
is the goal of life.
Allay says;}And I )Allâh( created not the jinns and humans except they
should worship Me )Alone(.{]51:56[
They pay no attention to the teachings of Islam in daily life. So,
they become Muslims in name only, and this causes injustice and
aggression among them. Life will not be orderly and sound unless
people )especially Muslim( adhere to Islam.
Allah says:}.... then whoever follows My Guidance shall neither go
astray, nor fall into distress and misery.][ "But whosoever turns away
from My Reminder )i.e. neither believes in this Qur'ân nor acts on its
orders, etc.( verily, for him is a life of hardship, and We shall
raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection."{]20:123, 124[
}It is those who believe )in the Oneness of Allâh and worship none but
Him Alone( and confuse not their belief with Zulm )wrong i.e. by
worshipping others besides Allâh(, for them )only( there is security
and they are the guided.][{]6:82[
}"And verily, this )i.e. Allâh's Commandments mentioned in the above
two Verses 151 and 152( is my Straight Path, so follow it, and follow
not )other( paths, for they will separate you away from His Path. This
He has ordained for you that you may become Al-Muttaqûn )the pious -
see V.2:2(."{]6:153[
}Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he )or
she( is a true believer )of Islâmic Monotheism( verily, to him We will
give a good life )in this world with respect, contentment and lawful
provision(, and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to
the best of what they used to do )i.e. Paradise in the
Hereafter(.{]16: 97[
Islam is the religion of sound nature and straight disposition and the
true religion, which leads its followers )and others if they follow
it( to happiness Here and Hereafter. It is suitable for all times, all
places and all nations. It gives the best solutions to the chronic
problems of humanity. It is the religion which Allah has chosen and
accepted for Muslims and all His servants.
He says:}....This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed
My Favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islâm as your religion.
....{]5: 3[
Allah knows best.

ALLAHY SAYS IN THEQURAN ...O you who have believed, when [the adhan] is called for the prayer on the day of Jumu'ah [Friday], then proceed to the remembrance of Allah and leave trade. That is better for you, if you only knewAnd when the prayerhas been concluded, disperse within the land and seek from the bounty of Allah , and remember Allah often that you may succeed.surah AL-JUMMAH .9, 10

ALLAHY SAYS IN THEQURAN ...O you who have believed, when [the adhan]
is called for the prayer on the day of Jumu'ah [Friday], then proceed
to the remembrance of Allah and leave trade. That is better for you,
if you only knewAnd when the prayerhas been concluded, disperse within
the land and seek from the bounty of Allah , and remember Allah often
that you may succeed.surah AL-JUMMAH .9, 10

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Reported by Usamah bin Zaid (RA): Messenger of Allah (peace be upon
him) said, "A man will be brought on the Day of Resurrection and will
be cast into Hell, and his intestines will pour forth and he will go
round them as a donkey goes round a millstone. The inmates of Hell
will gather round him and say: `What has happened to you, O so-and-so?
Were you not enjoining us to do good and forbidding us to do evil?' He
will reply: `I was enjoining you to do good, but was not doing it
myself; and I was forbidding you to do evil, but was doing it myself".
[Bukhari & Muslim]

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Best eaten when ripe or slightly soft
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Asmaa', may Allaah be pleased with her, is a well-known figure in
Islamic history; not only was she the daughter ofAbu Bakr, may Allaah
be pleased with him, and the sister of 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be
pleased with her, but she was the obedient wife of the great
companionAz-Zubayr ibn Al-'Awwaam, may Allaah be pleased with him. Her
role in supporting the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and her
examples of sacrifice and forbearance are ever-alive in the annals of
Islamic History. She was named'Thaat An-Nitaaqayn')the One with the
Two Waistbands( due to an incident in which she used two waistbands in
order to tie food for the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and
her fatherAbu Bakr, may Allaah be pleased with him. They had
leftMakkahforMadeenahand were being pursued by the enemy. It
wasAsmaa's, may Allaah be pleased with her, job to deliver this food
to them with the utmost secrecy; late into her pregnancy she climbed
up MountThawr. For those who aren't acquainted with this Mount it
should suffice for you to know that even the youth are caught gasping
for breath when climbing its rocky tracks. What droveAsmaa', may
Allaah be pleased with her, with her unborn, to undertake such a
dangerous journey? It was no other than the deep love she had for the
Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and her father. Later, when Abu
Jahl came to the house ofAbu Bakr, may Allaah be pleased with him,
full of rage and anger he askedAsmaa', may Allaah be pleased with her,
the whereabouts of her father and the Noble Messenger,sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam. Standing strong, with faithflowing through every
inch of her being, she replied that she did not know. He slapped her
across her face; she stood strong and unyieldingly with a heart full
of love for this religion.
Her love did not end with the demise of the messenger,sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam, on the contrary, she, may Allaah be pleased with
her, ignited this deep love into the hearts of her children and
grandchildren. One such grandchild that benefited greatly from her
company was no other thanFaatimahbintAl-Munthir, may Allaah have mercy
upon her. Allaah choseFaatimah, may Allaah have mercy upon her, to be
a light whose name would shine - even today- in the books ofAhaadeeth.
Faatimah bint Al-Munthir, may Allaah have mercy upon her, is respected
as one of the leadingTaa'biaatof her time )the generation after the
companions(. She was a great scholar and was renowned as
aFaqeehah)Jurist( and was married to her cousinHishaam ibn 'Urwah ibn
Al-Zubayr, may Allaah have mercy upon him.Hishaamwas also a great
scholar and narrator. Some of his leading students included:Imaam Abu
Haneefah,Imaam Maalik,Shu'bahandSufyaanAl-Thawri, may Allaah have
mercy upon them.
Although they were both cousins,Hishaam, may Allaah have mercy upon
him, had not acquired fromAsmaa', may Allaah be pleased with her, the
manyAhaadeethof the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
thatFaatimah, may Allaah have mercy upon her, had acquired fromAsmaa',
may Allaah be pleased with her. Hence, he would ask his wife and learn
from her the words of the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
memorizing them and in turn informing his companions and students of
what his wife had taught him.
Many have narrated fromFaatimah, may Allaah have mercy upon her, such
asMuhammad ibn Is-Haaq, may Allaah have mercy upon him, )the author of
one very famous book ofSeerah( and others, yet her husbandHishaam, may
Allaah have mercy upon him, comes as one of the leading figures
narrating directly fromFaatimah, may Allaah have mercy upon her.
The following are just a few examples from the major and unanimously
accepted books of narrations, in whichHishaam, may Allaah have mercy
upon him, narrated directly from his wifeFaatimah, may Allaah have
mercy upon her.
1.Hishaam, may Allaah have mercy upon him, narrated from his
wifeFaatimah, may Allaah have mercy upon her, from her
grandmotherAsmaa', may Allaah be pleased with her, that she said:'A
woman came to the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
and said: 'O Messenger of Allaah, I have a daughter who is a bride:
she has a disease )measles( that has thinned her hair. Can I join
]another's hair[ to it? The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi
wa sallam, said:'The curse of God is on the one who joins ]another's
hair in this way[ and the one who asks for this ]joining another's
hair.'']Al-Bukhaari, Muslim, Al-Nasaa'i & Ibn Maajah[
2.Hishaam, may Allaah have mercy upon him, says:'Faatimah, may Allaah
have mercy upon her, narrated to me from Asmaa', may Allaah be pleased
with her, that she said: 'We ate meat of one of our horses in the time
of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam.']Al-Bukhaari, Muslim,
Al-Nasaa'i & Ibn Maajah[
3.Hishaam, may Allaah have mercy upon him, narrates fromFaatimah, may
Allaah have mercy upon her, fromAsmaa', may Allaah be pleased with
her, that she said:'The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, said to me:"Give ]of your wealth[, spend ]from it[ and pay
out; do not hold it back, otherwise Allaah will hold back from you; do
not count ]it[ otherwise Allaah will count over you."]Al-Bukhaari,
Muslim & Al-Nasaa'i[
4.Hishaam, may Allaah have mercy upon him, also narrated from her the
longHadeethfound in the books ofAl-BukhaariandMuslim, may Allaah have
mercy upon them, about the prayer on the occasion of the solar
eclipse.
For some of the most leading scholars of Islam, the likes ofImaam
Al-BukhaariandImaamMuslim, may Allaah have mercy upon them, to record
theseAhaadeeeth,in which:
1. Women have narrated the hadeeth
2. A man has narrated from his wife.
Holds great lessons for those who claim that the Scholars of Islam
were misogynist and andocentric. On the contrary the very books that
are considered the most reliable sources of Islamic knowledge contain
narrations that contain chains which bear the names of women.
Further, these examples bear sufficient proof that men would, without
embarrassment, narrate from their wives openly.
Was it not forHishaam, may Allaah have mercy upon him, who learnt
fromFaatimah, may Allaah have mercy upon her, who learnt fromAsmaa'may
Allaah be pleased with her, we may have been bereft of these beautiful
pearls of wisdom that were extracted from the sea of Prophet-hood.

குதிகால், பாதம், கெண்டைக்கால், மூட்டு, தொடை ஆகிய இடங்களில் ஏற்படும் வலியைப் போக்கும் திறமை பெற்றது வெற்றிலை நெல்லி ரசம்.

குதிகால், பாதம், கெண்டைக்கால், மூட்டு, தொடை ஆகிய இடங்களில் ஏற்படும்
வலியைப் போக்கும் திறமை பெற்றது வெற்றிலை நெல்லி ரசம்.
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தேவையான பொருட்கள்*:முழுநெல்லிக்காய் 10, வெற்றிலை 20, கொத்தமல்லி இலை,
கறிவேப்பிலை தலா ஒரு கைப்பிடி, காய்ந்த மிளகாய் 4, பூண்டு 6 பல், வால்
மிளகு, சீரகம் தலா ஒரு டீஸ்பூன், மஞ்சள் தூள் அரை டீஸ்பூன், நல்லெண்ணெய்
2 டீஸ்பூன், உப்பு தேவைக்கேற்ப.
*செய்முறை*: நெல்லிக்காயை விதை நீக்கி சாறு எடுக்கவும். கறிவேப்பிலை,
கொத்தமல்லி இலை, வெற்றிலை மூன்றையும் பொடியாக நறுக்கிக்கொள்ளவும். வெறும்
சட்டியில் காய்ந்த மிளகாயை கிள்ளி போட்டு, பொடியாக நறுக்கிய பூண்டு,
ஒன்றிரண்டாகத் தட்டிய வால்மிளகு, சீரகம் ஆகியவற்றை போட்டு இளம் சிவப்பாக
வறுக்கவும். பின்னர், பொடியாக நறுக்கிய கறிவேப்பிலை, வெற்றிலை,
கொத்தமல்லி இலையை அதில் போட்டு, மஞ்சள் தூள் சேர்த்து வதக்கவும்.
நன்றாக வதங்கியதும் விழுதாக அரைத்துக்கொள்ளவும். ஒரு சட்டியில் சிறிது
எண்ணெய் ஊற்றி, அரைத்து வைத்துள்ள விழுதைப் போட்டு வதக்கவும். அதில்
நெல்லிக்காய் சாறு, தேவையான அளவு தண்ணீர் சேர்த்து கொதிக்க வைக்கவும்.
அடுப்பை மிதமாக எரியவிடவும். கொதிக்கும் பக்குவம் வந்ததும், தேவையான அளவு
உப்பு சேர்த்து கொதிக்கவிடாமல் கீழே இறக்கவும்.
இந்த நெல்லி ரசத்தை குடிப்பதன் மூலம் குதிகால் வலியை எளிதில்
குறைப்பதோடு, உயர் ரத்த அழுத்தம் உள்ளவர்களுக்கும் இதயநோயாளிகளுக்கும்
ஏற்ற உணவாக அமைகிறது. எலும்பு புற்றுநோய் ஏற்படாமல் தடுக்கும் ஆற்றல்
இதற்கு உண்டு என்பது குறிப்பிடத்தக்கது.Heel, ankle, calf, knee, thigh
pain effectively in the soup Nelly's success.

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Allaah Almighty says (what means): "To Allah belongs the dominion of
the heavens and the earth; He creates what He wills. He gives to whom
He wills female [children], and He gives to whom He wills males. Or He
makes them [both] males and females, and He renders whom He wills
barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent." [Quran 49:50] Allah is
the One, based on His ultimate wisdom, who grants whomever He wills
sons and daughters; He grants sons only to whomever He wills, and
grants daughters only to whomever He wills, and if He so wills, He
makes whomever He wills infertile.
We notice in the above verse that the mention of daughters preceded
that of sons, and the scholars commented on this saying: "This is to
hearten daughters and encourage kindness towards them, because many
fathers feel burdened by receiving a daughter. The common practice of
the people during the pre-Islamic era was to hate receiving daughters,
to the extent that they would bury them alive; therefore, it is as if
Allah is saying to people: `This inferior child in your estimation
takes precedence in My scale.' He also mentions daughters first to
indicate their weakness, and that they are therefore more deserving of
care and attention."
Such honouring of daughters is the complete opposite of how people
were accustomed to dealing with females in the pre-Islamic era, when
they would degrade women and consider them a part of their wealth, and
if news of a baby girl would come to any of them, it would be as if he
was hit by a thunderstorm; Allaah says (what means): which means: "And
when one of them is informed of [the birth of] a female, his face
becomes dark, and he suppresses grief. He hides himself from the
people because of the ill of which he has been informed. Should he
keep it in humiliation or bury it in the ground? Unquestionably, evil
is what they decide." [Quran 58:59]
It is said that some enemies of Qays ibn 'Aasim At-Tameemi, who was a
pre-Islamic Arab, attacked his premises and captured his daughter.
Later, one of these enemies married her. After some time, the clan of
Qays and that of his enemies reconciled, so they gave this daughter of
his the freedom to go back to her father or remain with her husband,
and she preferred to stay with her husband. At that point, Qays took a
pledge upon himself to bury alive any new daughter that he would
receive, and the Arabs imitated him after that. It was, therefore,
this man who introduced this evil practice, and thus he will shoulder
his own sin as well as the sin of all those who did it thereafter.
One of the companions who had killed his daughter in the era that
preceded Islam narrated his story: "We would worship idols in the
pre-Islamic era and kill our daughters. I had a daughter, who, when
she was old enough to comprehend and talk, would rejoice whenever she
saw me and would immediately respond. One day, I called her and told
her to follow me, so she did, until we reached a well that belonged to
my tribe. I then took her by her hand and threw her in the well, and
the last thing I heard her cry was: 'O father! O father!'"
(Ad-Daarimi)
During the era that preceded Islam, there were two methods that people
used to kill their daughters:
· At the time of the delivery of the child, a man would order his wife
to give birth next to a hole dug in the ground; if the newborn was a
male, she would return home with him, otherwise, she would throw her
into the pit and bury her alive, or:
· When the daughter reached six years of age, the man would tell his
wife to adorn and perfume her, then he would take her to a well in the
desert and tell her to look down into the well; when she would do
this, he would push her into it from behind.
There were some men among these people who would forbid such acts,
such as Sa'sa'ah ibn Naajiyah At-Tameemi, who would go to those
attempting to kill their daughter offering money to ransom their
lives.
There are people nowadays who share these same pre-Islamic beliefs; if
they are granted only girls, which is of course something decreed only
by Allah, they become angry, discontent and grieved.
With the advent of Islam, the darkness of that era vanished and Allah
enjoined kindness, love and compassion towards girls. Taking good care
of girls was encouraged, as was giving them special attention in the
process of their upbringing. In fact, Islam has designated a special
reward for raising them that is not granted for raising sons. Anas
reported that the Prophet said: "He who raises two daughters until
their puberty will be with me in Paradise like this", and he
symbolized the proximity by showing two of his fingers with a slight
gap between them." (Muslim)
`Aa'ishah(ra) related: "A woman by the name of Jameelah came to me
with her two daughters. She asked me for charity but found nothing
with me except a date, which I gave her. She divided it between her
two daughters and ate nothing herself; then, she got up and left.
After this, the Messenger of Allah came, so I narrated this story to
him; he said: "He who is involved (in the responsibility) of
(nurturing) daughters and is generous to them, will have them as a
fortification for himself against the Hellfire." (Al-Bukhari &
Muslim).
In another narration of this incident, `Aa'ishah (ra) related: "A poor
woman came to me with her two daughters. I gave her three dates; she
gave each of them a date and was about to eat the third one when one
of her daughters asked her for it, so she divided it between her two
daughters and ate nothing herself, and I liked what she did. After
this, the Messenger of Allaah came, so I told him what she did, and he
said: 'Allaah obligated Paradise for her due to this date, and (also)
freed her from Hell.'"(Muslim)
Pay close attention to wording of the following narration: the Prophet
said: "He who is tested by (the guardianship) of daughters...." Why did
he use the word: "...tested..."? He said it because raising them is a
responsibility and a test from Allaah to see how His slave would act:
Will he be kind to them? Will he raise them correctly?
The nature of this responsibility was further clarified in other
narrations, such as: "If he patiently feeds them and endows them with
clothing ..." (Ibn Majah)., and: "...Provides for them and marries them
off..." (At-Tabarani)., and: "...Properly raises them and fears Allah in
the manner in which he deals with them." (At-Tirmithi)
This is what is required when dealing with daughters: kindness, which
results in Paradise, as the Prophet(saw) said: "Whoever Allah has
given two daughters and is kind towards them, will have them as a
reason for him to be admitted into Paradise." And: "Whoever Allah has
given three daughters and he perseveres through raising them, will
have them as a shield for him from the Hellfire on the Day of
Resurrection."
A daughter is a great bounty and an honour granted by Allah, Hasan
(ra) said: "Girls are a source of reward and sons are a blessing;
rewards are in one's favour (on the Day of Judgement) whereas one will
be held accountable for blessings."
Thus, it is incorrect to believe that one has been humiliated by being
granted a girl; rather it is an honour, a bounty and a gate towards
Paradise. Daughters are a greate responsibility to rear, and entail
greater expenditure, and this is why the reward for raising them
correctly is greater than that for a son.
Once, one of the leaders of the believers was receiving people when a
small daughter of his entered the room, so he kissed her; a Bedouin
was also in attendance and saw this, so he mentioned daughters in a
very evil manner. A wise man who was also present witnessed all of
this and therefore said: "O leader of the believers! Do not listen to
him. I swear by Allaah, that it is they (i.e., girls) who stay up to
care for the sick in the family, who show mercy towards the elders,
and who stand next to men during hardships."
A man was granted a baby girl, so he became angry and isolated himself
from his wife for a long time, and after few months, he overheard his
wife reciting the verse (which means): "...But perhaps you hate a thing
and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for
you..." [Quran 2:216]
How many girls have been far more merciful and beneficial to their
parents than their brothers? How many times has a son been a source of
grief for his parents, to the point that they wished he was never
born?
Why do we raise this topic now? It is due to the vicious attacks on
the Muslims under the pretext of defending 'women's rights' which is
in reality an evil attempt to play on the emotions of women so that
they will become rebellious towards their fathers and husbands, and to
encourage them to leave their homes and demand their 'freedom'. This
is a gate towards evil and immorality which gradually attracts women
and then traps them in prohibitions. One cause of girls falling into
this is people neglecting their daughters and undermining their
rights, which makes them easily fall into the traps of the
hypocritical writers and columnists, male and female, who wish to see
corruption prevail.
It is enough of an honour for girls that the Prophets may Allah exalt
their mention, had daughters and that most of the children of our
beloved Prophet(saw) were daughters, namely: Zaynab(ra), Ruqayyah(ra),
Umm Kalthoom(ra) and Fatimah (ra) .

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The best way to discipline your children is to teach and guide them,
more than obliging them to be disciplined. The process of improving a
child's behavior is an educational, not a punitive process. In this
case, you should prefer a smile to frowning, a calm voice to shouting
and a reward to punishment.
In this article, we offer you thirteen tips that will significantly
affect your methodology while you change your child's behavior. These
thirteen tips will form a new atmosphere for discipline making it an
easy matter. However, you should listen to, respond and consider every
tip.
First: Be a good example:
Your child is watching you continuously and he absorbs the way you
face frustration, your behavior while you are angry, the extent of
your truthfulness, honesty, generosity, morals, and so on. Hence, it
would be easier to change your child's behavior if you are his
role-model in doing what you order him to do. It should be known that
you cannot give what you do not have.
Second: Encourage efficiency:
According to experts,"Self-confidence is a good cornerstone for
self-control."When you praise your child's good behavior, you build
his self-confidence. Such self-confidence will help you a great deal
in improving his bad behavior.
Third: Teach your child social skills:
Getting the child accustomed to good social manners at a young age
will save a lot of effort when he gets older. So, from now teach him
to seek permission before entering others' rooms, to say"Jazaak
Allaahu Khayran(May Allaah reward you)" to anyone who does him a
favor, to kiss his parents' hands, to visit his relatives, and to help
his mother with the housework. Every effort that you exert with a
young child will be a great asset helping you to change his bad
behavior when he gets older.
Fourth: Give your child authority to an extent that is proportional to his age:
The more you find ways to encourage independence, the more you save a
lot of time in the future. You should teach your child to make his own
decisions, for example, to choose his own clothes and to buy his own
things. The child who has some kind of authority will control himself
more and will be more capable of changing his behavior.
Fifth: Charge with responsibilities:
Many parents do not entrust tasks to their children because they feel
that it is easier to do them themselves or they do not want to
overburden their children. However, this attitude should be changed
and the child should be encouraged to participate in the housework and
to help his father at work. This should take place after teaching and
training the child to do so in order not to feel a failure. The child
who shoulders responsibility at a young age will be more able to
change his own bad behavior.
Sixth: First attract their attention:
Your children may notice that you talk, but if they do not pay
attention to your words, they will not respond. Therefore, your first
step is to be keen on attracting their attention.
-Go to the room to speak directly to your child.
-Be keen on visual communication which requires flexibility to be on
the same level of the child.
-Your demands should be simple and your explanation should be easy and
clear to understand.
Seventh: Look for other means of rejection:
The child usually turns a deaf ear to everything that he does not like
to hear. This means that the more interesting your speech is, the
greater your chance is to gain their attention.
-Instead of telling the child,"Stop shouting",you should say,"Please,
speak in your normal voice."
-Instead of saying to the child,"Stop throwing the ball inside the
house", you should say,"Take the ball and play outside".
Guiding the child in a positive way will save you from direct
confrontation related to his behavior. It will also give the child a
space to choose. You should not say to him,"Do not play
football";rather, you should say,"Do not play football here."
Eighth: Set limits:
Some parents fear setting limits thinking doing so will weaken the
child's personality. However, when you spend some time with children
who have no limits, you will immediately realize the importance and
positive effect of this approach on the child.
Ninth: Anticipate the situation and deal with it before it takes place:
For instance, if your child insists on having everything he wants from
the toy store, then, you need to go there without accompanying him
until he gets older. It is wise to avoid the development of some bad
attitudes in our children.
Tenth: Setting punishments:
The best way to indicate your dissatisfaction with any bad behavior is
to set punishments. For example, you may say,"If you do not go on
time, you will not be able to go to the picnic","If you beat your
young sister, you will not get your pocket money",and so on.
Eleventh: Be flexible and ready to negotiate if necessary:
Flexibility in upbringing means having sufficient wisdom that does not
drive the parent to ask the child to immediately do his homework after
returning from a hard day at school. In this situation, the parent
should say,"I think you should have some rest now. I will wake you up
after you have rested."
Twelfth: Using the method of rewards:
Reward is different from bribes.
A bribe is to make a previous agreement with the child, for example,
to have a certain amount of money in order not to raise his voice in
the market.
A reward is to give the child a reward in return for his polite
behavior all the day.
Giving rewards enhances good morals and creates a new atmosphere. So,
you should not forget to use it as a successful means of upbringing.
Thirteenth: Be firm on principle:
You should mind what you say and adhere to it. In this way, the child
will understand that you are serious. This will save a lot of your
efforts. Firmness on principles is the basis according to which you
can bring up your child. If you can set some rules and behavior to be
followed inside the family, you will grant your child the starting
point according to which he can make his own decisions.

Islamic Articles, - Love Her...details at http://aydnajimudeen.blogspot.com

Love her .when she sips on your coffee or tea. She only wants to make
Sure it tastes just right for you.
Love her when she "pushes" you to pray. She wants to be with you in
Jannah (Paradise).
Love her when she asks you to play with the kids. She did not "make"
them on her own.
Love her when she is jealous. Out of all the men she can have, she chose you
Love her when she has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You
Have them too.
Love her when her cooking is bad. She tries.
Love her when she looks disheveled in the morning. She always grooms
herself up again.
Love her when she asks to help with the kids homework. She only wants
you to be part of the home.
Love her when she asks if she looks fat. Your opinion counts, so
Tell her she's beautiful.
Love her when she looks beautiful. She's yours so appreciate her.
Love her when she spends hours to get ready. She only wants to look
her best for you.
Love her when she buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell her
it's what you've always wanted.
Love her.when she has developed a bad habit. You have many more and
With wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help her change.
Love her when she cries for absolutely nothing. Don't ask, tell her
Its going to be okay.
Love her.when she suffers from PMS. Buy chocolate, rub her feet and
back and just chat to her.
Love her.when whatever you do is not pleasing. It happens and will pass.
Love her.when she stains your clothes. You needed a new thobe (kurta) anyway
Love her when she tells you how to drive. She only wants you to be safe.
Love her when she argues. She only wants to make things right for both of you.
Love her she is yours. You don't need any other special reason!!!!
All this forms part of a Woman's Character. Women are part of your
Life and should be treated as the Queen.
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) advised concerning the
Woman: treat the women well. The best of you are those who are the
best in the treatment of their wives.
No one honours the woman except an honorable man. And no one
Humiliates her or holds her in contempt except one who is evil, vile,
Wicked and depraved. Don't wait for that special occasion, take time
Now to make her feel Special in Every Way

Dought & clear, - When they need to write the Gregorian date.

Some of the offices of al-Muntada al-Islami are in countries which use
the Gregorian calendar. We use the Hijri calendar, but this causes us
problems when we deal with government departments which do not use the
Hijri calendar, or when drawing up budgets, paying salaries and
preparing financial reports for the appropriate departments in those
countries.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is nothing wrong with using both dates, so long as the Hijri
date is written first, followed by the equivalent Gregorian date. The
Hijri date is based on the lunar months, which are clear and can be
readily observed by anyone who has eyes to see, but the Gregorian
months do not have any clearly visible signs and can only be known
through calculations. Hence the Islamic sharee'ah uses the Arabic
months for the dates of fasting, Hajj, I'tikaaf and so on. Beginning
with the Hijri date is also a manifestation of the symbols and
features of Islam among those who do not know them. And Allaah knows
best.

Dought & clear, - Ruling on celebrating Valentine’s Day.

What is the ruling on Valentine's Day?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Valentine's Day is a jaahili Roman festival, which continued to be
celebrated until after the Romans became Christian. This festival
became connected with the saint known as Valentine who was sentenced
to death on 14 February 270 CE. The kuffaar still celebrate this
festival, during which immorality and evil are practised widely. For
more details on this celebration, please see: Celebrating Valentine's
Day .
Secondly:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to celebrate any of the festivals
of the kuffaar, because festivals come under the heading of shar'i
issues which are to be based on the sound texts.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Festivals are part of sharee'ah, clear way and rituals of which Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning):
"To each among you, We have prescribed a law and a clear way"
[al-Maa'idah 5:48]
"For every nation We have ordained religious ceremonies which they must follow"
[al-Hajj 22:67]
-- such as the qiblah (direction faced in prayer), prayer and fasting.
There is no difference between their participating in the festival and
their participating in all other rituals. Joining in fully with the
festival is joining in with kufr, and joining in with some of its
minor issues is joining in with some of the branches of kufr. Indeed,
festivals are one of the most unique features that distinguish various
religions and among their most prominent symbols, so joining in with
them is joining in with the most characteristic and prominent symbols
of kufr. No doubt joining in with this may lead to complete kufr.
Partially joining in, at the very least, is disobedience and sin. This
was indicated by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) when he said: "Every people has its festival and this is our
festival." This is worse than joining them in wearing the zinaar (a
garment that was worn only by ahl al-dhimmah) and other
characteristics of theirs, for those characteristics are man-made and
are not part of their religion, rather the purpose behind them is
simply to distinguish between a Muslim and a kaafir. As for the
festival and its rituals, this is part of the religion which is cursed
along with its followers, so joining in with it is joining in with
something that is a cause of incurring the wrath and punishment of
Allaah. End quote fromIqtida' al-Siraat al-Mustaqeem(1/207).
He also said (may Allaah have mercy on him): It is not permissible for
the Muslims to imitate them in anything that is uniquely a part of
their festivals, whether it be food, clothing, bathing, lighting
fires, refraining from a regular habit, doing acts of worship or
anything else. It is not permissible to give a feast or to give gifts,
or to sell anything that will help them to do that for that purpose,
or to allow children and others to play games that are part of the
festivals, or to wear one's adornments.
To conclude: the Mulsims should not do any of their rituals at the
time of their festivals; rather the day of their festival should be
like any other day for the Muslims. The Muslims should not do anything
specific in imitation of them. End quote fromMajmoo
al-Fataawa(25/329).
Al-Haafiz al-Dhahabi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: If the
Christians have a festival, and the Jews have a festival, it is only
for them, so no Muslim should join them in that, just as no Muslim
should join them in their religion or their direction of prayer. End
quote fromTashabbuh al-Khasees bi Ahl al-Khamees, published inMajallat
al-Hikmah(4/193)
The hadeeth to which Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah referred was
narrated by al-Bukhaari (952) and Muslim (892) from 'Aa'ishah (may
Allaah be pleased with her) who said: Abu Bakr came in and there were
two young girls of the Ansaar with me who were singing about what had
happened to the Ansaar on the day of Bu'aath. She said: And they were
not (professional) singing girls. Abu Bakr said: "Musical instruments
of the shaytaan in the house of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him)?!" and that was on the day of Eid.
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "O Abu Bakr, every people has a festival and this is our
festival."
Abu Dawood (1134) narrated that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him)
said: When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) came to Madeenah, they had two days when they would play. He
said: "What are these two days?" They said: "We used to play on these
days during the Jaahiliyyah." The Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Allaah has given you instead
of them two days that are better than them: the day of al-Adha and the
day of al-Fitr." This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani
inSaheeh AbiDawood.
This indicates that festivals are among the characteristics by which
nations are distinguished, and it is not permissible to celebrate the
festivals of the ignorant and the mushrikeen (polytheists).
The scholars have issued fatwas stating that it is haraam to celebrate
Valentine's Day.
1 -Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:
In recent times the celebration of Valentine's Day has become
widespread, especially among female students. It is a Christian
festival where people dress completely in red, including clothes and
shoes, and they exchange red flowers. We hope that you can explain the
ruling on celebrating this festival, and what your advice is to
Muslims with regard to such matters; may Allaah bless you and take
care of you.
He replied:
Celebrating Valentine's Day is not permissible for a number of reasons.
1- It is an innovated festival for which there is no basis in Islam.
2- It promotes love and infatuation.
3- It calls for hearts to be preoccupied with foolish matters that
are contrary to the way of the righteous salaf (may Allaah be pleased
with them).
It is not permissible on this day to do any of the things that are
characteristic of this festival, whether that has to do with food,
drinks, clothing, exchanging gifts or anything else.
The Muslim should be proud of his religion and should not be a weak
character who follows every Tom, Dick and Harry. I ask Allaah to
protect the Muslims from all temptations, visible and invisible, and
to protect us and guide us.
End quote fromMajmoo' Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen(16/199)
2 - The Standing Committee was asked: Some people celebrate
Valentine's Day on the fourteenth of February every year. They
exchange gifts of red roses and wear red clothes and congratulate one
another. Some bakeries make red coloured sweets and draw hearts on
them, and some stores advertise products that are especially for this
day. What is your opinion on the following:
1- Celebrating this day
2- Buying things from the stores on this day
3- Storekeepers who are not celebrating it selling things that may
be given as gifts to people who are celebrating it?
They replied:
The clear evidence of the Qur'aan and Sunnah - and the consensus of
the early generations of this ummah - indicates that there are only
two festivals in Islam: Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha. Any other
festivals that have to do with a person, a group, an event or anything
else are innovated festivals, which it is not permissible for Muslims
to observe, approve of or express joy on those occasions, or to help
others to celebrate them in any way, because that is transgressing the
sacred limits of Allaah, and whoever transgresses the sacred limits of
Allaah has wronged himself. If the fabricated festival is also a
festival of the kuffaar, then the sin is even greater, because this is
imitating them and it is a kind of taking them as close friends, and
Allaah has forbidden the believers to imitate them and take them as
close friends in His Holy Book. And it is proven that the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever imitates a
people is one of them." Valentine's Day comes under this heading
because it is an idolatrous Christian festival, so it is not
permissible for a Muslim who believes in Allaah and the Last Day to
observe it or approve of it or congratulate people on it. Rather he
has to ignore it and avoid it, in obedience to Allaah and His
Messenger, and so as to keep away from the causes that incur the wrath
and punishment of Allaah. It is also haraam for the Muslim to help
people to celebrate this or any other haraam festival by supplying any
kind of food or drink, or buying or selling or manufacturing or giving
or advertising etc., because all of that is cooperating in sin and
transgression and is disobedience towards Allaah and His Messenger
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"Help you one another in Al-Birr and At-Taqwa (virtue, righteousness
and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression. And
fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is Severe in punishment"
[al-Maa'idah 5:2]
The Muslim must adhere to the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah in all his
affairs, especially at times of fitnah when evil is widespread. He
should be smart and avoid falling into the misguidance of those who
have earned Allaah's anger and who have gone astray, and the evildoers
who have no fear of Allaah and who do not have any pride in being
Muslims. The Muslim must turn to Allaah and seek His guidance and
remain steadfast in following it, for there is no Guide except Allaah
and no one can make a person steadfast but Him. And Allaah is the
source of strength. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our
Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions. End quote.
3 - Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah preserve him) was asked:
Among our young men and women it has become common to celebrate
Valentine's Day, which is named after a saint who is venerated by the
Christians, who celebrate it every year on February 14, when they
exchange gifts and red roses, and they wear red clothes. What is the
ruling on celebrating this day and exchanging gifts?
He replied:
Firstly: it is not permissible to celebrate these innovated festivals,
because it is an innovation for which there is no basis in Islam. It
comes under the heading of the hadeeth of 'Aa'ishah (may Allaah be
pleased with her), according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever introduces anything into this
matter of ours that is not part of it will have it rejected."
Secondly: it involves imitating the kuffaar and copying them by
venerating that which they venerate and respecting their festivals and
rituals, and imitating them in something that is part of their
religion. In the hadeeth it says: "Whoever imitates a people is one of
them."
Thirdly: it results in evils and haraam things such as wasting time,
singing, music, extravagance, unveiling, wanton display, men mixing
with women, women appearing before men other than their mahrams, and
other haraam things, or things that are a means that leads to
immorality. That cannot be excused by the claim that this is a kind of
entertainment and fun. The one who is sincere towards himself should
keep away from sin and the means that lead to it.
And he said:
Based on this, it is not permissible to sell these gifts and roses, if
it is known that the purchaser celebrates these festivals or will give
these things as gifts on those days, so that the seller will not be a
partner of the one who does those innovations. And Allaah knows best.

Dought & clear, - Ruling on pledges of allegiance to one’s homeland.

What is the ruling on the call made by some who say that it is
obligatory to be loyal to one's homeland?
Praise be to Allaah.
What is obligatory is to be loyal to Allaah and His Messenger, in the
sense that one takes others as friends or enemies for the sake of
Allaah. His homeland may be not Islamic, so how can he be loyal to his
homeland? But if his homeland is Islamic, then he must love good for
it and strive to achieve that. But his loyalty must be to Allaah, so
that whoever is a Muslim and is obedient towards Allaah is his friend,
and whoever is opposed to the religion of Allaah is his enemy, even if
he is a member of his family or from the same country, and even if he
is his brother, uncle or father, etc. Friendship must be for the sake
of Allaah and enmity must be for the sake of Allaah. As far as a
person's homeland is concerned, he likes it if it is Islamic. He must
promote goodness in his homeland and strive for it to remain Islamic
and for its situation and its people to remain stable. This is what is
obligatory upon all Muslims. We ask Allaah to strengthen and guide us,
you and all the Muslims. May He make our intentions correct and our
deeds righteous. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad and his family
and companions.

About Jumma in Al Quran

Hadees, - Someone asked Hassan Al Basri:

Someone asked Hassan Al Basri:
"What is the secret of your piety?" He replied,
"I understood 4 things:
1. I understood my rizq cannot be taken by anyone so my heart is contended..
2. I understood no one can do my actions (worship) so I started doing
them myself.
3. I understood Allah Ta'ala is watching me, so I felt shame to do wrong.
4. I understood death is waiting for me so I started to prepare for my
meeting with Allah Ta'ala. "
May Allah grant us this understanding & guide us. Ameen

Dought & clear, - Putting one’s trust in Allah and taking measures.

There was a discussion about the issue of putting one's trust in Allah
(tawakkul) and taking measures; the trust of some of the righteous is
like that of Maryam, to whom summer fruits used to come in the winter
and vice versa without her taking any measures; rather she focused
completely on worship. Please advise us about that, may Allah bless
you.
Praise be to Allaah.
Putting one's trust in Allah involves two things:
(i)Depending on Allah and believing that He is the One Who causes
measures to be effective; His decree comes to pass; He has decreed all
things, counted them out and ordained them, may He be glorified and
exalted.
(ii)Taking appropriate measures; putting one's trust in Allah does not
mean refraining from taking measures; rather part of putting one's
trust in Allah is taking appropriate measures and striving to do so.
The one who refrains from doing so has gone against the laws and
decree of Allah. Allah has commanded us to take appropriate measures
and He encourages us to do so; He commanded His Messenger (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) to do that.
So it is not permissible for the believer to refrain from taking
appropriate measures; in fact he is not truly putting his trust in
Allah unless he takes appropriate measures. Hence it is prescribed to
get married in order to have a child, and it is enjoined to have
intercourse. If someone were to say: I shall not get married and I
shall wait to have a child without getting married, he would be
regarded as insane; this is not the way of those who are wise and
rational. Similarly, he should not sit in his house or in the mosque
seeking charity and waiting for provision to come to him; rather he
should strive hard and work to seek to earn halaal provision.
Maryam (may Allah have mercy on her) did not forgo taking measures.
Allah said to her (interpretation of the meaning):"And shake the trunk
of date-palm towards you, it will let fall fresh ripe-dates upon you"
[Maryam 19:25]. So she shook the palm tree and took appropriate
measures until the dates fell. Her action is not contrary to taking
measures and the fact that she found provision with her and that Allah
honoured her and gave her some provision does not indicate that she
refrained from taking appropriate measures; rather she devoted herself
to worship and also took appropriate measures.
If Allah bestows upon some of His close friends some miracles
(karaamaat), this is by His grace and bounty, but that does not
indicate that we should forgo taking appropriate measures. It is
proven that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
said: "Strive to do that which will benefit you and seek the help of
Allaah, and do not feel helpless." Narrated by Muslim, 2664. And
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning):"You (Alone) we worship, and You (Alone) we ask for help (for
each and everything)" [al-Faatihah 1:5].

Islamic Marriage Articles, - Sex Roles in Muslim Families in the U.S. 2

Continution:
-
The modern industrial culture upset the past norm of family life and
greatly changed the purposes of marriage. New opportunities of
material gain were opened to married and unmarried. Women making them
eco- nomically independent from their husbands and male providers. The
women's emancipation movement accordingly declared that there was no
more reason for tolerating subjugation to the male and cultivated the
eccentric tendencies against the traditional functioning and sex-roles
in the family. "The woman's new freedom has greatly increased sexual
opportunity outside marriage, supported by contraception and
abortion." The main purpose of marriage has become to satiate the
desires of the couple, or what the libs call to achieve individual
fulfillment and to ascertain the spouse's identity. The new concept
has become tantamount to fulfilling the "desire of each other's need
for individual happiness" and "the development of man-woman
relationship." This, according to them, would lead to giving the wife
the same status as the husband without differentiation or
discrimination. Thus, a new concept of marriage rooted in the family
had to be developed, and four substitutes are being practiced in modem
societies:
1. Serial monogamy, where a series of marriages take place one after
the other. This is what prevails in the United States at present where
divorce occurs in 40% of marriages and where 75% of the divorced
remarry. There are some modernists who suggest the "bypass of divorce
by requiring renewal or cancellation of all marriage contracts at
three year intervals."
2. Open marriage, where the exclusivity of husband-wife (sexually and
otherwise) is eliminated. Those who advocate this category of marriage
practice "wife swapping" or "swinging." They claim that extramarital
experiences would reduce jealousy, relieve tensions and ease the
pressures of personal conflict.
3. Polygamy and group marriage, where an association of husbands and
wives and their children mix together without restriction or
constraint. The claim here is that multiplicity of parenthood for
adults and children would offer a wider variety of interactive
experiences in meeting individual needs.
4. Homosexuality, where women "marry" women and men "marry" men
without the usual conflict which is inevitable in every new normal
marriage.
All such approaches can never succeed in creating a happy family
because they ignore the biological and the spiritual elements. Humans
cannot survive without a society and no society can survive without
the family. As individuals, "to live is to love and to love is to
live," as Havelock Ellis puts it. Serial monogamy, open marriage,
group marriage and homosexuality lack the premodial basics of the
family. Humans are the only species where the offspring needs parental
catering for a relatively long period after birth, not only physically
but emotionally as well.
The new frustrated efforts, as reflected in the modern abnormal family
life do not unite man and woman in a bond where both enjoy material
and emotional security, stability and contentment. They do not cure
the ailments created by the prevailing technological culture:
alienation, loneliness, anomie, lack of love, and anxiety. "Search any
average human being and you soon find evidence of heart-hunger for
closeness and intimacy and the shared life as the only dependable
sources of a sustained sense of self-esteem and of personal worth."
The women's emancipation movement in this country is revolting against
long-standing inequitable treatment, against a biased, unjust legal
system and a domineering economic exploitation. In their revolt, and
in the absence of any effective religious or moral guidance, women
have gone to the extreme which has brought down on them the misery of
"civilized prostitution and adultery."
Such are the circumstances of the culture under which a Muslim family
lives in this country. It would be a gross mistake to assume that
Muslims will not be affected by the American way of life, the American
materialistic values and American laws. Hence, the complex of problems
of Muslim families start. If we add to the above anomalies the
problems arising from the educational systems and its repercussions on
the youngsters and adults, we could better understand the vast
dimension of the Muslim dilemma. An example of this confusion is the
so-to-speak highly educated Muslim wife who believes that it is her
legitimate right to invite any male friend into the home, even in the
absence of her husband, to accept an invitation in another city or
another country without his permission, or the right to choose hard
work in a locality other than where he lives. It is not a rare case to
come across a Muslim woman who believes that she has the right to work
as she has spent long years qualifying herself in a certain
profession. In most cases, she would be motivated by her desire to
material gain, especially when she can have some fulfillment out of
the social activities in her professional domain. Such wives are
deeply influenced by the American materialistic mentality and would
claim the best of two worlds: to keep her job and to claim her Islamic
right to be sustained by her husband.
The problems of children born in Muslim families are well known to all
and have been repeatedly discussed by Muslim sociologists and thinkers
in numerous conventions and symposia. They revolve on the cold fact
that the American environment and culture affect the Muslim child's
mentality and code of ethical values. When both parents are working,
the child does not get enough care and domestic orientation to protect
him against anti-Islamic practices. More serious a menace is the loss
of the child's Islamic identity and his relatedness to a Muslim
community. But these children's problems are mainly derived from the
principal family problems which, if solved, would automatically bring
relief to the chil- dren's ordeal.
THE ISLAMIC SOLUTION- BIOLOGY AND SOCIALIZATION
There is nothing more compatible with human nature than Islamic
teachings and injunctions, if only because they take the individual as
a fallible being, subject to trial and error and subject to correction
and evolution."On no soul does Allah place a burden greater than it
can bear."(2:286)
It gets every good that it earns, and it suffers every ill that it
earns. As we are concerned here with the Muslim family, it is natural
that whatever solution we may suggest, it must be in accordance with
Islam. Luckily enough, Islam decides upon every issue, taking human
nature in consideration and exhorting us to abide by the eternal laws
of creation.
Empirical sciences have discovered many facts concerning our
biological structure and physiological functioning, but there are
still many more of life's secrets to be uncovered. There is not one
single established scientific fact that runs contrary to any Islamic
injunction; but there are many postulates, ideas and theories that may
be incompatible with Islamic teachings. Under such uncertain
conditions, the Muslim is supposed to follow the Islamic rules
irrespective of the scientific dubious points of view and his personal
desires.
Regarding the traditions and cultures that affect our socialization,
we must bear in mind that these are the product of certain practiced
ideals and established ideas prevailing at one time in a certain
society. This is an extremely important element in the Islamic
syndrome of solutions to societal problems. Islam is a philosophy that
defines the purpose of human life, the relation between man, nature,
and the Creator. It is a doctrine that sets up the broad outlines of
the social, political, economic and esthetic systems which should be
applied in our daily transactions and intercourse. Such philosophical
definitions and doctrinal delineations are confined to the basic facts
which do not evolve or change in accordance with the continuous human
evolution. Facts are absolute and are not subject to change, otherwise
they are neither facts nor absolute.
Whatever solutions we find in Islam, they are based on such absolute
facts whether known to our contemporary scientists or unknown to them.
The entire concept of the family and roles of its members is a part of
the general concept of the Islamic society. Let us bear in mind that
marriage is dictated by our biological needs and is a part of the
indispensable human society and not just a matter of individual
option."And of everything we have created pairs."(51:49).
The word 'zawj' is used in the Quran as meaning a pair or a mate. Both
words connote marriage."Do they not look at the earth, how many pairs
of noble things we have produced therein?"(31:10). Even in Paradise,
the Quran informs us that we shall have mates (see 2:25, 4:57). Allah
created humans from one soul, which could be the first cell. From this
soul He created the male and the female. The story of creating Eve
(the first female) from a rib of Adam (the first male) is not
mentioned in the Quran."And among His signs is this, that He created
for you mates from yourselves that ye may find rest (and peace) in
them."(30:2 1)."O mankind, heed (in reverence) your Lord Who created
you from a single soul, and from it created its mate, and from them
both spread a multitude of men and women."(4:1).
Our Prophet orders us to get married as soon as we can. The family is
the nucleus of the Islamic society and marriage is the only way to
bring about such an institution. Extra-marital relations are
categorically condemned and prohibited."Nor come nigh to adultery (or
fornication) for it is a shameful deed and an evil, opening the road
to other evils."(17:30).
It is only logical that Islam set up the rules to regulate the
functioning of the family whereby both spouses can find peace, love,
security and relatedness. The elements are necessary to accomplish the
greatest purpose of marriage: the worship of Allah. By worship it is
not only meant the performance of rituals, but it essentially implies
righteousness in all transactional behavior. Every good deed, every
service to humanity, every useful productive effort, and even every
good word are a part of a true Muslim worship of his Allah. If both
husband and wife observe this main purpose, this cardinal purpose of
their union, they would easily learn how to help each other achieve
this goal which is greater than themselves. They would learn how to
tolerate each other, how to love Allah in themselves and in other
beings, and how to overcome their difficulties and their shortcomings.
The second purpose of marriage is to respond to the basic biological
instinct of procreation. Children are the realization of motherhood
and fatherhood. Islam is particular in providing the most possible
wholesome atmosphere for bringing up the offspring. To give birth to
children and neglect them is a crime towards society, the children,
and the parents themselves. The child who is deprived of the ample
love of his or her parents, who is not properly tutored at an early
age, and who is left to babysitters and nurseries will develop many
anti-social behavioral patterns and may end up with crime, perversion
and corruption. Such a child may never find his or her identity as he
or she could have felt it in a systematic manner during his or her
childhood. Without a family life, governed by Islamic order and
discipline, how can we expect a child to have the Muslim conscience
and the Islamic value of righteousness.
Islam prescribes clear rights and obligations on parents and their
descendent Parents are legally responsible for the education and
maintenance of their children. These, by turn, are legally responsible
for accommodating and maintaining their parents, if they so require,
in their old age. Both parents and children inherit from each other
according to a prescribed and accurate law of inheritance specified in
the Quran. Neither of them can deprive the other of their respective
shares in the legacy. This is only part of the long family code in
Islam. What is of import here is the husband-wife relationship-their
sex roles-within the context of Islamic comprehension:"And among His
Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves,
that you may find rest (and peace) in them. And He has put love and
mercy between your (hearts); Verily in this are signs for those who
reflect."(30:21).
Despite the importance of these moral values: rest, peace, love and
mercy, Islam did not stop there. It bolstered its original concept of
the family by defining the roles of man and woman in such a manner
that each should act in accordance with his or her biological merits.
The man, with his aggression, is charged with what is called the
instrumental functions: maintenance, protection, dealings with the
outworldly matters and leadership within the family. The woman is
entrusted with caring for and rearing the children, organizing the
home, and creating the loving atmosphere inside. Let us be clear from
the beginning that in an Islamic society the wife is not expected to
be pushed to work to gain money. Even the unmarried, the divorcee, and
the widow are guaranteed, by law, an income that helps them lead a
reasonably comfortable life. Work or trade are not prohibited to
women. Yet, they are not recommended to undertake such activities
unless there is a justification for them and without prejudice to
their husband's rights. Once the woman gets married, she accepts the
Islamic ruling on the functioning of the family. Her role becomes
mainly to achieve the welfare of her household and to look after the
internal family affairs. If she wants to work, she is bound to ask the
explicit approval of her husband. However, if she has her own property
or fortune, and if she opts to run or invest such wealth, she is
entitled to do so without her husband's permission, but provided this
does not infringe upon her marital obligations.
THE ISLAMIC FAMILY
In Islam, as in biology, there is no family without marriage, and
there is no marriage without rules and discipline. The family in Islam
is a unit in which two independent persons unite and share life
together. The husband's dignity is an integral part of his wife's
dignity. Accordingly, neither of them is better than the other. To
unite and share, there must be mutual love and compassion-a genuine
feeling which unless translated into action and behavior would be mere
illusion and futile emotion. One can hardly accept the claim of love
of the spouse who does not care for his or her sick partner or who
does not share the family responsibilities.
This fundamental basis, if well understood and observed, makes the
first loyalty of both spouses to their family which is supposed to
serve Allah in piety as the main purpose of marriage. It implies that
they act as if they were one person with many organs. The head of the
human is not better than the heart, and the hand is not better than
the foot. If the man is charged with the duty of leadership and
maintenance, he is not better than the woman who is assigned the duty
of keeping the household, even if the first duty is more difficult and
perhaps more significant. Imam Muhammad Abduh emphasizes this point as
vital for the right understanding of the sex roles of spouses. He adds
that the Quranic verse,"And in no wise covet those things in which
Allah hath bestowed His gifts more freely on some of you than on
others; to men is allotted what they earn, and to women what they
earn"(4:32) does not imply that every man is better than every woman
or vice versa. According to him, each sex, in general, has some
preferential advantage over the other, though men have a degree over
women.
There has been much controversy about this 'degree'. Some interpret it
as the delegation of leadership, surveillance and maintenance which
are bestowed on men. Others say that it is the tolerance with which
men must treat their wives. A third view is that it is men's natural
gift for judging matters and managing external problems. However, the
consensus is that this 'degree' comprises the principle of
'guardianship' or 'qiwamah'.
Imam Abduh in the course of interpreting the preceding Quranic verse,
stated that qiwamah or guardianship has four elements: protection,
surveillance, custody and maintenance. Dr. Abd al-Ati considered the
element of obedience over and above the aforementioned four elements-
the most important indication of qiwamah. Obedience, to him, and in
accordance to the Quran and Traditions comprises the following:
1.She must not receive male, strangers or accept gifts from them
without his permission. Nor must she lend or dispose of any of his
possessions without his approval,
2.The husband has the legal right to restrict her freedom of movement
and prevent her from leaving her home without his permission. She must
comply with this right unless there is a necessity or legitimate
advantage for her to do otherwise. However, it is his religious
obligation to be compassionate so as to relax his right to restrict
her freedom of movement. If there arises a conflict between this right
of his and wife's parents' right to visit and be visited by their
daughter, his right prevails.
Yet it is religiously recommended that he be considerate enough to
waive his right and avoid estrangement within his conjugal family or
between any member of this family and close relatives, e.g. the wife's
parents.
3.A refractory wife has no legal right to object to the husband's
exercise of his disciplining authority. Islamic law, in common with
most other systems of law, recognizes the husband's right to
discipline his wife for disobedience.
4.The wife may not legally object to the husband's right to take
another wife or to exercise his right of divorce. The marital contract
establishes her implicit consent to these rights. However, if she
wishes to restrict his freedom in this regard or to have similar
rights, she is legally allowed to do so. She may stipulate in the
marital agreement that she too, will have the right to divorce, or
that she will keep the marriage bond only so long as she remains the
only wife; should he take a second wife, the first will have the right
to seek a divorce in accordance with the marriage agreement.
5.Finally, if the husband insists on patrilocality or neolocality, the
wife Must Comply."
CONCLUSION
The problems facing Muslim families living in the States can be dealt
with in compliance with Islamic teachings and principles once we
accept them as binding. If the spouses are really devout, they will
have no difficulty in encountering the evils of the Western culture
and in escaping the anti-Islamic societal factors that may run
contrary to Islam. The guidelines as we see them would be:
1.The main purpose of marriage is to live in piety and to serve the
Islamic Cause. The wife has the right to discontinue working whenever
she pleases. The husband may allow the wife to work with the condition
that her gain belongs to the family and not be considered as her
personal property.
2.Household: When the wife is not employed, the household becomes her
first occupation. By household it is meant the rearing of the children
and all domestic services required for maintaining a clean and
comfortable habitation. The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Cleanliness is a
part of faith." Motherhood is highly appraised in Islam and is the
most elated value second to the worship of Allah.
MARRIAGE, DISPUTES AND DIVORCE
Marriage:Muslims should marry according to Islamic traditions and
rules. The marriage will have to be registered with the State in which
they wed in order to give it a legal force. This legal procedure
subjects the marriage contract to the jurisdiction of American laws
which, in most cases, contradict many Islamic rulings. However, such
contradiction does not happen unless there is a dispute that both
spouses fail to solve in accordance with the Shariah.
Disputes:These are expected to arise in all matrimonial relations.
Muslim abiding spouses must learn how to compromise and tolerate each
other. Their guide is the teaching of their religion and their good
example is their Prophet. However, in case they fail to solve their
own problems, they have to resort to arbitration. The spouse who
refuses this Quranic injunction or who defies the other partner taking
shelter under the umbrella of American laws is failing in his or her
religious commitment. The Quranic arbitration is meant to be binding
on both spouses and would, indeed, relieve the Muslim family of most
of its problems.
Divorce:If one to the spouses refuses arbitration, non-Islamic divorce
is bound to take place, leaving a deep painful scar on both of them.
Arbitration may end in divorce, but in this case it would be least
harmful as both would feel more content when Shariah is justly
applied.
It is a pity that many recalcitrant (nashiz) Muslim women think that
American law would serve their interest more than the Islamic Law.
This is not only wrong but the consequences of litigation generally
leaves more ill feeling than should be.
ENVIRONMENT AND CHILDREN
Nobody can deny the impact of environment upon adults and children. Up
until now, one can safely say that Muslims of America could not
constitute any physical or moral community comparable to that of the
Jews or the Chinese. Granted that there are some groupings in
scattered localities and spiritual guidance from different sources,
yet there is no community that could respond to many basic needs. The
family must live in a society, and unless an Islamic community is
created, the Muslim family will have no alternative but to merge in a
non-Muslim one.
The danger is so imminent that it forms the major part of the family
problems in the United States. Both adults and children are influenced
by American values and traditions, and by American behavior and
manners. There is no escape from this "assimilation" except by
strengthening the family bonds and by steadfast observation of Islamic
teachings. The husband must lead here by strict adherence to Islamic
ways of life and by requiring the same from his wife.
Such are the sex-roles in Islam and the main problems facing Muslim
families in the United States and, indeed, in all non-Muslim
countries. The solutions mentioned above entirely depend upon the
faith of the spouses and their earnest desire to live up to their
religion. Allah, according to the Holy Quran, has made men in charge
of their wives, has ordered them to maintain and protect them and has
ordered women to obey their husbands and guard their secrets (see
4:34, 35). As for those spouses who claim the right to twist the
meanings of Quranic texts so as to suit their personal desires, and
those who try to subject Islam to non-Islamic laws are sick in their
hearts and are transgressors. Most probably, such persons would not
like to read this essay, though we pray to Allah to guide them to the
right way:"Say: This is my Way: I call on Allah with sure knowledge
and (so does) whosoever follows me - glory be to Allah! and I am not
of the idolaters"(12:108).
NOTES
1. L. Cadmure and L. Larson, "The Center of Life," The New York
Times Book Co., 1977, p. 8.
2. Ibid., p. 9.
3. Ibid., p. 28.
4. Ibid., p. 38.
5. 1. R. Symthies, "Brain Mechanisms and Behavior." New York:
Academic Press, 1970, p. 156.
6. Shirley Weitz, "Sex Roles." New York: Oxford University Press,
1977, p. 7.
7. K. E. Moyer, "Sex Difference in Aggression." Quoted in R. C.
Friedman, R. M. Richart, R. L. Vande Wiele, eds., "Sex Differences in
Behavior," Wile, 1974, p. 156.
8. Weitz, op. cit., p. 42.
9. D. B. Lynn, "The Father: His Role in Child Development,"
Monterey, CA: Brooks Cole, 1974, pp. 14-21.
10. Weitz, op. cit., p. 42.
1 1. M. A. Diamond, "A Critical Evaluation of the Ontogeny of
Human Sexual Behavior," Quarterly Review of Biology, 50 (1965), pp.
147-175.
12. Weitz, op. cit., p. 5.
13. Cadmure, op. cit., p. 8.
14. Ibid., p. 39.
15. Hammudah Abd al-Ati, "The Family Structure in Islam." Indiana:
American Trust Publications, 1977, p. 19.
16. Ibid., pp. 54-55.
17. Lately a few states have allowed married women to use their
maiden names.
18. R. H. Williams (ed). To Live and To Die. "Marriage: Whence and
Whither," NY- Springer-Verlad, 1973, p. 298.
19. Ibid., p. 299.
20. Ibid., p. 304.
21. Tafsir al-Manar, vol. 5, p. 68 ff.
22. Abd al-Ati, op. cit., pp. 172-173. These rights and obligations are
corroborated by the Quran and Hadith.