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Dua before Sleeping -. اَللّهُمَّ بِسْمِكَ أَمُوْتُ وَ أَحْيَ O Allah , with Your name I die and live (Bukhari)

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اَللّهُمَّ بِسْمِكَ أَمُوْتُ وَ أَحْيَ
O Allah , with Your name I die and live
(Bukhari)

Dua Upon Hearing Thunder- Abdullah ibn Umar (RA) said that when the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) heard the sound of thunder he said: اللَّهُمَّ لَا تَقْتُلْنَا بِغَضَبِكَ وَلَا تُهْلِكْنَا بِعَذَابِكَ وَعَافِنَا قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ O Allah , do not kill us

Abdullah ibn Umar (RA) said that when the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم)
heard the sound of thunder he said:
اللَّهُمَّ لَا تَقْتُلْنَا بِغَضَبِكَ وَلَا تُهْلِكْنَا بِعَذَابِكَ
وَعَافِنَا قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ
O Allah , do not kill us with Your anger and do not destroy us with
Your punishment, but preserve us before that happens.
(Imam Tirmizi )

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Getting Through Mini-Depressions

Many people periodically go through short depressions when they feel
negative about everything in their lives. There are ways we can
minimize these depressions, and steps we can take to ensure wedon't
sabotage our relationships when we'refeeling blue.
In my case, I go through regular periods of mini-depression every few
months. My mood will be utterly black, my mind filled with
self-critical thoughts: "I'ma failure, I'm a hypocrite, I have no real
friends, I've wasted my life…" But even in the depths of depression I
know that the mood will not last. One good night's sleep will restore
me to normal, Insha'Allah. So I keep my mouth shut and do not express
those negative thoughts to family or friends, becauseI know I will
regret it later if I do….
Does this happen to you? If so, then pay attention to your own
emotional cycles so that you know what to expect. Control yourself
when you're feeling down. Speak onlywhat is good, or stay silent.
Let's be very clear: You should not ignore genuine problems in your
life. If something is missing or making you unhappy, work on it
Insha'Allah. I'm also not saying that you should remain silent about
real issues that you face. If you've got problems in your family, it's
important to communicate to resolve them. It's also good to talk to a
therapist or counselor.
But when you are depressed, your viewpoint becomes skewed, and it's
not necessarily representative of reality. So when you have those dark
thoughts that say, "My life is worthless and Ihate everyone," don't
express those to anyone except your therapist or counselor. Don't call
up your best friend and say, "You're not a true friend, you don't care
about me." That's not productive and will only destroy your
relationship.
When you're depressed, hold on to your lifeline with God, eat well and
get plenty of rest, and be patient until the mood passes Insha'Allah.
Try to fill your life with good things: people you care about, work
that matters,hobbies you love, good books to read, exercise you enjoy…
these good things provide a safety net when you're feeling blue.
For example, photographer and human rights activist Asmaa-Deanna Dee
says, "When I am feeling low and downtrodden I just find a quiet place
and sit alone with my favorite book (the Quran)! When Iturn each of
its miraculous pages my heart begins to feel lighter and the world
around me brighter! The love, warmth and security of each word sets in
and it is in these very moments that I know for sure in my heart how
much Allah really loves me! Alhamdulillah! Subhanallah! Allahu Akbar!"
Also remind yourself of the good things in your life, and try to be
gratefulfor them. Do not look to those who have more than you, but
those who have less. Think of the times in your life when God has
helped you, guided you, and saved you. He will do so again.
By the way, I don't get those mini-depressions as often anymore. I'm
notsure why, but it could be that I exercise every day now. Also, I am
active in the Muslim community, I write passionately about subjects
that are important to me, and I have a daughter who I love… my life is
full of good things Alhamdulillah.
May your life also be full of good things.

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The hadeeth about the virtue of the Basmalah and that it protects against the 19 guards of Hell

The hadeeth about the virtue of the Basmalah and that it protects
against the 19 guards of Hell
Praise be to Allaah.
This report was mentioned by al-Qurtubi in al-Jaami' li Ahkaam
al-Qur'aan (1/92) and Ibn Katheer in his Tafseer (1/18), narrated from
Wakee' from al-A'mash from Abu Waa'il from Ibn Mas'ood (may Allaah be
pleased with him); it is thewords of Ibn Mas'ood, not of the Prophet
(blessings of Allaah be upon him).
This isnaad is saheeh from Wakee' to Ibn Mas'ood.
Although al-A'mash is mudallis, what he narrated from those with whom
he spent a great deal of time and narrated a great deal from them,
such as Ibraaheem al-Nakha'i and Abu Waa'il, may be accepted.
Al-Dhahabi said in his biography of al-A'mash in Mizaan al-I'tidaal (2/224):
He is mudallis (i.e., gives a false impressions concerning the
narration of the hadeeth, using ambiguous words to give the impression
that he heard it directly from his Shaykh when that is not the case),
and sometimes he narrates in this mannerfrom a weak narrator without
realising it. When he says haddathana [he told us], there is no
problem with that, but when he says 'an [narrating from], there is the
possibility of tadlees except in the case of narration from the
shuyookh from whom he narrated a great deal, suchas Ibraaheem, Abu
Waa'il [in the printed version it says "Ibn Abi Waa'il" but this is an
error; the word "Ibn" is a mistake] and Abu Saalih al-Sammaan. His
narration from these shaykhs is to be understood as meaning that he
heard directly from them and there is no interruption in the chain.
End quote.
But there remains the issue of the narrators who come after Wakee'.
Al-Qurtubi and Ibn Katheerdo not mention the isnaadin its entirety,
and perhapsit is because of this that al-'Allaamah Ahmad Shaakir
omitted it from hisabridgement of Ibn Katheer's Tafseer which is
entitled 'Umdat al-Tafseer,in the introduction to which (1/11) he
stated that he omitted every weak or problematic hadeeth.
But al-Suyooti attributed itin al-Durr al-Manthoor (1/26) to Wakee',
and Imam Wakee' ibn al-Jarraah wrote a well known Tafseer.
See: al-Majma' al-Mu'assis by al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (p. 113)
If that is proven, then the isnaad is saheeh, and the report from Ibn
Mas'ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) is saheeh.
And Allaah knows best.

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What is meant by profaning the names of Allah and types of profanation

What is meant by profaning the names of Allah, may He be exalted?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The scholars have mentioned different types of profaning the names of
Allah, may He be exalted, all of which involve distorting the meaning
in a way other than the way it should be understood. There are several
types:
1.
Denying any of His names or the attribute to which aname refers. For
example: those who deny that the name ar-Rahmaan (the Most Gracious)
is one of the names of Allah, may He be exalted, as the people of the
Jaahiliyyah did.
Or they may affirm the name but deny the attribute to which it
refers,as some of the innovators said that Allah, may He be exalted,
is Merciful without mercy, All-Hearingwithout hearing.
2.
Calling Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, by a name by which He
did not call Himself.
The reason why this is profanation is that the names of Allah, may He
beglorified and exalted, are limited to what is mentioned in the texts
of the Qur'an and Sunnah, and it is not permissible for anyone to call
Allah, may He be exalted, by a name by which He did not call Himself.
This comes under the heading of speaking about Allah without
knowledge, and transgressing against the rights of Allah, may He be
glorified and exalted. This is what some of the philosophers did, when
they called God the primary cause, and as the Christians did when they
called Allah, may He be exalted, the Father, and soon.
3.
Believing that these names refer to attributes of created beings, and
hence thinking that this points to likening Allah to His creation.
The reason why this is profanation is that the onewho believes that
the names of Allah, may He beglorified and exalted, point to likening
Allah to His creation has misinterpreted them and distorted them from
the correct meaning. He has understood the words of Allah and the
words of His Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) as
pointing to kufr (disbelief), because likening Allah to His creation
is kufr, as it is a rejection of the words (interpretation of the
meaning): "There is nothing like unto Him, andHe is the All-Hearer,
the All-Seer" [ash-Shoora 42:11] and "Do you know of any who is
similar to Him?" [Maryam 19:65]. Na'eem ibn Hammaad al-Khuzaa'i, the
shaykh of al-Bukhaari (may Allah have mercy on them both)said: The one
who likens Allah to His creation has committed an act of kufr, and the
one who denies any attribute that Allah has ascribed to Himself has
committed an act of kufr; there is nothing in the attributes that
Allah has ascribed to himself that is similar to the attributes of His
creation.
4.
Deriving names of idols from the names of Allah, may He be exalted,
such asderiving the name al-Laat from al-Ilaah (the God), and al-'Uzza
from al-'Azeez (the Almighty) and Manaat from al-Mannaan (the
Benefactor).

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: 1. 'Any disaster that strikes you is through what ...

There is an important characteristic of the lower self of a man. When something good befalls onone; when he receives goodness and kindness from the people around him; when things go the way he wants them to go, in a way that would cheer him up and make him happy; he feels rather complacent. He believes that the beautiful things going on around him and the benevolence he receives are taking their sources from him. He thinks the reason why things go well for him andwhy course of events go the way he hoped them togo, is because he strives a lot and because he is a good person who makes agreat effort in many subjects and because he acts reasonable and precautious. In other words, he is of the idea that he had earned all the good things befalling on him to the smallest detail.
However when the sameperson faces things that he doesn't want to face; when goodness and benevolence is not anymore offered to him by people around him; when things do not givethe results he wants them to give; when the blessings in his life lessen and some difficulties and troubles arise; he would not thinkthat "all those, again to the smallest detail, befallon him because he earned them all himself". On the contrary, he believes that he did not deserve any of those things happening to him, he feels hard done-by and wronged. He even thinks that all these things befall on him because he has been too good towards everyone and thus he livesin the psychology of a person "being wronged".
Most of the time, a person living through these things would not stop to think: "Could there be something wrong with me? Could itbe that I have some wrong beliefs and a wrong point of view? Dothe things that befall on me have something to do with such wrong beliefs I have or with mymorality? Would the goodness and beauties in my life be any different if I acted somehow different? Could it be that I have been experiencing all these because I earned them due to the flaws I have in my morality?"
Had he been thinking like this even for a very short time; and instead of looking for the problem inother details, had he sincerely censured himself;he would have realized the truth which in fact is very evident.
Allah revealed in the Qur'an that: "Any disaster that strikes you is through what your own hands have earned" (Surat Ash-Shura: 30)
This verse gives a person the true point of view with which he could evaluate the things he is experiencing in a correct and sound manner. In another verse Allah informs us that; "Those who do good will have the best and more" (Surah Yunus: 26). When aperson keeps his heart pure and sincere; when helooks at every event in his life by searching the approval of Allah; as long as he thinks by the morality of the Qur'an andapproach people only through this point of view stemming from the Qur'an; Allah would definitely "increase the beauties in such a person'slife".
If he is harboring any evil in himself, if he does not think purely by the Qur'an and if he is adding a little bit of the moral values of ignorance in his approach, if he evaluates the incidents taking place not by the Qur'an but by the rules and value judgmentsof the ignorance, it is natural for the things that befall on him and the things he experiences to be just like that. Whateverhe manifests spiritually would somehow reflect onhis life.
It is very important not to forget this truth, which has been very explicitly revealed in the Qur'an. Man is very prone to think continuously well of himself; he adopts a wrong point of view by thinking that he earned allthe good things that befallon them but that he neverdeserved (Allah is beyond such claims) the troubles he experiences. To think on these verses of the Qur'an is in fact sufficient for him to see that these suggestions of his lower self are not true.
Allah is All-Compassionate and Most Merciful. His Mercy extends to all things. Allah is the One Who loves His servants infinitely, Who continuously bestows goodness and beauty on them through concealed and overt means. Every moment of a person's life is full of thousands of details in which he can seethe love of Allah. And Allah is the Owner of the Infinite Justice. Allah shows His Mercy even on aperson who has committed the worst evils on earth and shows him the ways to salvation. Allah creates new means every moment for man and inspires his consciencewhat is right for him, to abstain from doing wrong,feel remorse and desist.

Your Suffering is Nought

1.) The Ambiyaa (AS), including Rasulullah (Sallallaahu 'alayhi
wasallam) faced the worstof tests and trials. Thereafter the Sahabah –
e- Kiraam (RA) and accordingly many others who were close and beloved
to Allah Ta'ala.
Their lives offer us consolation and comfort that what we go through
is small in comparison.
Their tests were not 'small'. Their tests were great. ...Our tests are
small in comparison.
No one has placed you on hot, burning desert sand, and demanded that
you renounce Islam – and that too, repeatedly, day in andday out.
No one is branding your head with a hot iron rod.
No one is dragging your body over smouldering charcoal.
- as was done to the Companions (RA).
2.) The Sahabah (RA) sacrificed their lives for theDeen of Islam – for
Islam to reach us. They wrote the history of Islam with their blood.
Their whole life was proof of deep love, sincere commitment and humble
submission.
We cannot even sacrifice our sins. And we engage inthose sins using
the bounties of sight, hearing, health, strength, money – all of which
is from Allah Ta'ala.
There is just no comparison.

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4a. Ruling on accepting hospitality from one whose wealth is a mixture of halaal and haraam

4a.
because the Jews – as Allah, may He be exalted, described them –
"(like to) listen to falsehood, [and] to devouranything forbidden"
[al-Maa'idah 5:42].
End quote from Fataaawa Noor 'ala ad-Darb.
See also the answer to question no. 39661
Based on that, there is nothing wrong with you accepting gifts from
your friend and eating his food.
But if your refusing to do so will have an impact on him and his
father, and will motivate them to repent, then in that case you have
to refuse.
And Allah knows best.

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4. Ruling on accepting hospitality from one whose wealth is a mixture of halaal and haraam

4.
In my school i have a friend who has converted to islam (hamdulliah)
and he is not practising. the question is that he somtimes offers to
give me food which is halal from his home and he offers me to take
some but i refuse because i know and he knows that this money came
from haram money. his dad gambels and sells pork. my qurstion is is it
ok for me to take this food like for e.g. chocolate he gives me from
his dad money ornot.
Praise be to Allaah.
The fuqaha' differed concerning the ruling on interacting with a
person whose wealth is a mixtureof halaal and haraam when it comes to
buying and selling, accepting gifts,eating food, and so on. There are
several opinions,the strongest of which are two:
1.
The first opinion is that it is not haraam to accept gifts from him
and to interact with him; rather itis makrooh. This is the view of the
Shaafa'i and Hanbali madhhabs, and was favoured by Ibn al-Qaasim among
the Maalikis.
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
If the purchaser's wealth isa mixture of halaal and haraam, and he
(the seller)does not know where the money he is paying came from, it
is not haraam for the person to whom it is given. But it is better not
to take it. This idea is emphasised to a greater or lesser extent
dependingon the proportion of haraam in the purchaser's money.
End quote from al-Majmoo', 9/344
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
If a person buys from someone whose wealth is a mixture of halaal and
haraam, such as an unjust ruler or one who deals with riba (usury), if
he knows that the item for sale comes from the halaalportion of his
wealth, thenit is halaal; if he knows that it is haraam, then it is
haraam, and what the seller says should not be taken as the basis for
the ruling. In principle, whatever a man has is his,so if one does not
know whether the item he is buying is from the halaal or haraam
portion of his wealth, then we regard it as makrooh, because of the
possibility that it may be haraam, but the transaction is not regarded
as invalid, because of the possibility that it may be halaal, whether
the haraam portion is great or small. This is the cause of the doubt
concerning the ruling, and this doubt is commensurate with the portion
of haraam involved; the greater or lesser the portion of haraam, the
greater or lesser the doubt is. Ahmadsaid: I do not like him to eat
from it (food the source of which is not known).
End quote from al-Mughni,4/201
See also: ash-Sharh al-Kabeer, 3/277
2.
The second opinion is to look at what forms the greater portion of his
wealth. If the greater portion of his wealth is halaal, it is
permissible to deal with him, but if the greater portion of his wealth
is haraam, then it is not permissible. This is the view of the Hanafis
and Maalikis.
Ibn Nujaym (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
If the greater portion of the giver's wealth is halaal, then there is
nothing wrong with accepting his gift and consuming his wealth, so
long as it is not clear that it is from the haraam portion thereof. If
the greater portion of his wealth is haraam, he should not accept his
gift or consume his wealth, unless he says that it is halaal, and he
inherited it or borrowed it.
End quote from al-Ashbaah wa'n-Nazaa'ir, p. 96
Some of the scholars are of the view that it is haraam to deal with
someone whose wealth is a mixture of halaal and haraam. This was the
viewof Asbagh among the Maalikis.
But Ibn Rushd said: The opinion of Asbagh is extreme.
End quote from al-Bayaan wa't-Tahseel, 18/194
The more correct view is that it is permissible to deal with him and
to accept his gifts.
This is the opinion that is regarded as most correct by most
contemporary scholars.
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
It is proven from the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him) that heaccepted a gift from a Jewish woman when she gave
him a (roasted) sheep during the campaign to Khaybar; the Prophet
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) accepted the invitation of
the Jewish man in Madinah who invited him to eat barley bread and fat.
And he dealt with the Jews,
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3a. Beliefs of the Bareilawis (or Barelvis)

3a.
8. They find it very strange when the siwaak is used at the time of prayer.
9. They kiss their fingersduring wudoo', at the timeof the adhaan,
and after prayer.
10. Their imam always recites the verse "Allah sends His Salat
(Graces, Honours, Blessings, Mercy, etc.) on the Prophet (Muhammad )
and also Hisangels too (ask Allah to bless and forgive him)"
[al-Ahzaab 33:56] after prayer, then all the worshippers send
blessings upon the Prophet in unison and loudly.
11. They gather in circles after Jumu'ah prayer, standing, reciting
and reciting poetry in praise ofthe Prophet (blessings andpeace of
Allah be upon him) loudly.
12. After completing the recitation of the Holy Qur'an in Taraweeh
prayerin Ramadan, they make a great deal of food and distribute it in
the forecourt of the mosque, as well as sweets.
13. They build mosques and adorn them elaborately, and they write over
the mihraab "Ya Muhammad (O Muhammad)".
14. They regard themselves as followers ofthe Sunnah and correct
'aqeedah (belief), and think that others are in the wrong.
What is the shar'i ruling on praying behind them?
They replied:
It is not permissible to pray behind one who is like this, and if one
who knows that the belief of the imam is like that praysbehind him,
his prayer is invalid, because most of the things listed are
characteristics of kufr (disbelief) and bid'ah (innovation) that are
contrary to the Tawheed (affirmation of the Oneness of Allah) with
which Allah sent His Messengers and which He revealed in His Books. It
is contrary to the clear meaning of the Qur'an, such as the verses in
which Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Verily, you (O Muhammad ) will die and verily, they (too) will die"
[az-Zumar 39:30] and "And the mosques are for Allah (Alone), so invoke
not anyone along with Allah" [al-Jinn 72:18]. The innovations that
they do should be denounced in a gentle way; if they accept it then
praise be to Allah. If they do not accept it, then shun them and pray
in the mosques of Ahl as-Sunnah. We have a good example in the
CloseFriend (Khaleel) of the Most Merciful, as Allah tellsus he said
(interpretation of the meaning): "And I shall turn away from you and
from those whom youinvoke besides Allah. And Ishall call on my Lord;
and Ihope that I shall not be unblest in my invocation to my Lord"
[Maryam 19:48].
End quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa'imah, 2/396-398
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked: What is
the ruling on praying behind an imam from the Bareilawi sect, who
believes that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
is aliveand present and can see us?
He replied: If they believe that, then they have gone against ijmaa'
(consensus of the ummah), and if theyseek his help, then that is
shirk, so it is not permissible to pray behindthem.
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3. Beliefs of the Bareilawis (or Barelvis)

3.
What are the beliefs of theBareilawi (or Barelvi) sect?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The Bareilawis are an extreme Sufi sect that appeared in the
Indo-Pakistani subcontinent, in the city ofBareilly, in the Indian
stateof Uttar Pradesh during the days of British colonialism.
The basic principles of their misguided, deviant teachings are based
on exaggeration about the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) and the members of his household, exaggeration about the
righteous, enmity towardsAhl as-Sunnah, and diverting the people
awayfrom jihad for the sake of Allah.
The founder of this sect was called Ahmad Reza Khan Taqiy 'Ali Khan;
he called himself 'Abd al-Mustafa.
He was one of the misguided extremists. He used to say: "When you are
confused, seek help from the occupants of the graves."
In his extreme exaggeration about the Messenger (blessings and peace
of Allah be upon him), he said: "The Messenger of Allah (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) is in control everywhere; he is the king
of earth and the sovereign of mankind."
And he said: "O Muhammad, I cannot say that you are Allah and I cannot
differentiate between you and Him; your matter is for Him to judge,
for He knows best what you really are."
And he said: "Allah, may He be blessed and exalted,gave the one who
broughtthe Qur'an, our master Muhammad (blessings andpeace of Allah be
upon him), everything that is in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz."
And he said: "The Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
is light from the Lightof Allah, and all of creationcomes from his
light."
Amjad 'Ali, one of their leaders, said: "The Prophet(blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) is a deputy of Allah with complete
authority, and the entire universe is under his control. So he does
whatever he wants, he gives whatever he wants to whoever he wants, he
takes whatever he wants, and there is no one in the universe who can
alter his rule. He is the master of humans and whoever does not make
him his sovereign is deprived of the sweetness of the sunnah."
And he said: "Those who reject seeking help from the Prophets and
saints and from their graves are heretics."
Ahmad Yar Khan – one of their shaykhs – said: "The shar'i meaning of
the one who is present and watching [this refers to the Prophet
(blessings andpeace of Allah be upon him] is that the one who
ispossessed of holy power isable to see the world like the palm of his
hand from the place where he is; he can hear sounds from nearand from
far; he can go around the world in a single moment; he helps those who
are in need andhe answers those who callon him."
They used to build structures over graves andfrequent them, lighting
candles and lamps in them, offer sacrifices to them in fulfilment of
vows, seeking barakah (blessing) from them, holding celebrations for
them, putting flowers and roses and cloths on them and putting
curtains around them, and calling their followers to circumambulate
the tombs, seeking barakah from them.
See: al-Kashf 'an Haqeeqat as-Sufiyyah (1/350); as-Sufiyah: Nash'atuha
wa Tatawwuruha (p. 62); al-Mawsoo'ah al-Muyassarah fi'l-Adyaan
wa'l-Madhaahib wa'l-Ahzaab al-Mu'aasirah (p. 302-306).
See also the answer to question no. 1487
The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were asked:
There is a certain group in Pakistan that is called the Bareilawis or
the Nawaari group, named after their current leader who is known as
Nawaari. I askedyou for the shar'i ruling concerning them and
theirbeliefs, and praying behind them, so that this may bring peace of
mind to many people who do not know the truth about them. And once
again, I would like to ask you about some of their mythsand widespread
beliefs:
1. The belief that the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) is alive
2. The belief that the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) is present and can see what is happening, especially
immediately after Jumu'ah prayer.
3. The belief that the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) will definitely intercede for them.
4. They believe in the awliya' ("saints") and the occupants of
graves, and they pray at their graves and ask them to meet their
needs.
5. They build domes over graves and put lights in them.
6. They are known to say "Ya Rasool, Ya Muhammad (O Messenger, O
Muhammad) (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him).
7. They get angry with the one who says Ameen out loud and raises
his hands when praying, and they regard him as a Wahhaabi.:->

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2a. The “miracles of nature”that are widely spoken of nowadays

2a.
The wise Muslim – who is aware of the guidelines onverifying news and
drawing conclusions from it – should not hasten to believe in them,
let alone spread them and call people to glorify Allah in amazement.
But what has happened is the opposite of that; manypeople believed in
these "stories" and they started spreading them and talking about them
in their gatherings, and passing them around on their mobile phones
and in e-mails, then suddenly afew days later they are surprised when
it turns out that it was a fabrication spread by some of those who are
zealous for Islam – in ignorance and naivety – orby some hateful
heretics – in mockery and scorn. Thishas caused confusion for many
people. And Allah is the One Whose help we seek.
What we object to is hastening to believe thesethings and regarding
themas miracles and challenges,telling everybody about them, and
making such stories a phenomenon without end. Every day there is a new
story; the matter has reached such a level of foolishness that noone
of sound mind could believe in these things. Wesee that in the story
of thelion's roar in which some people – by a huge stretchof the
imagination – hear the name of Allah. Much worse than that is what is
happening in one country where people have startedto touch a tree on
the trunk of which the name of Allah appeared, seeking barakah
(blessing) and healing from it. Then uponinvestigation it turns out
that it had been carved by someone who wanted to mislead the people.
The Muslims should refrainfrom propagating such rumours that may cause
people to go astray.
We ask Allah to help us understand our religion.
And Allah knows best.

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2. The “miracles of nature”that are widely spoken of nowadays

2.
Recently on websites and in chat rooms it has become common to see
topics and posts that contain pictures and audioor video clips that
show miracles, such as a fountain coming out of the sand in the
desert, or the name of Allah on the skin of a goat, or clouds forming
the name of Allah,or a girl who was transformed into an animal. Most
of these things are not true and arefabricated but these thingsare
very widespread.
What is the ruling on such things?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The signs of Allah in this universe are many; every atom in it
testifies to His greatness and majesty, and affirms His Oneness.
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"HaMeem. (These letters are one of the miracles of the Quran and none
but Allah (Alone) knows their meanings).
The revelation of the Book(this Quran) is from Allah, the All-Mighty,
the All-Wise.
Verily, in the heavens and the earth are signs for the believers.
And in your creation, and what He scattered (through the earth) of
moving (living) creatures are signs for people who have Faith with
certainty.
And in the alternation of night and day, and the provision (rain) that
Allah sends down from the sky, and revives therewith the earth after
its death, and in the turning about of thewinds (i.e. sometimes
towards the east or north, and sometimes towards the south or west
etc., sometimes bringing glad tidings of rain etc., and sometimes
bringing the torment), are signs for a people who understand.
These are the Ayat (proofs,evidences, verses, lessons, revelations,
etc.) of Allah, which We recite to you (O Muhammad SAW) with truth.
Then in which speech after Allah and His Ayat will they believe?"
[al-Jaathiyah 45:1-6] .
This is a call to ponder andthink about dozens of verses in the Holy
Qur'an that encourage us to look at the visible signs and to think
about them so as to increase in faith and certainty about the Creator
and believe in His Oneness, may He be glorified.
What these signs have in common is that they are visible to all
people. The earth, the sky, the sun, themoon, the animals, rain, one's
own self and so on are all signs that may be seen and known by all
humans. Each and every individual can understand their greatness and
realisethat they point to the Lordand Creator. Even though the
scientist may know things that ordinary people do not know aboutthese
things, they are visible to all and each person may learn from them
according to his ownlevel of understanding.
But with regard to what has become widespread nowadays of talking
about"miracles of nature", including those mentionedby the questioner,
as far asAllah's power is concerned,Allah, may He be exalted, has
power over all things, such as causing His name to appear on the skin
of a goat or on an egg, or transforming some peopleinto animals.
In fact we believe that such transformations will happen, as the
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) told us.At-Tirmidhi
(2212) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: "Among this ummah, people will be swallowed
up in the earth, transformed into monkeysand pigs, and pelted with
stones." A man among theMuslims said, "O Messenger of Allaah, whenwill
that be?" He said: "When singing-girls and musical instruments become
widespread and wine is drunk."
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi.
This is as far as the might and power of Allah, may He be exalted, are
concerned. But as for whether these "miracles" happened or not, most
of what is in circulation nowadays of such things cannot be verified
or proven. Most of what people are passing aroundto one another of
these things is no more than chit-chat in their gatherings and images
on discussion boards and in chat rooms, the source or author of which
is not known. Does the Muslim need such stories to prove the soundness
of his religion and belief?!
Is there a shortage of evidence based on common sense and certainty,
so that one has to resort to these rumours?!
The correct attitude towards these reports is torefrain from
judgement. So we do not believe them, because of the possibility that
they may be false, and we do not disbelieve them, because of the
possibility that theymay be true, so long as wehave no clear evidence
to prove whether they are true or false. If such evidence comes along
then we may be certain in that case.
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Hell - Fire of Hell - Dua When Seeing a Fire

Hell - If only you knew the torments of hell
It is the worst of places where anyone could dwell
It is in existence even as we speak
And for its inhabitants the outlook is bleak
On the day of rising, hell will be in view
A terrible sight, if only you knew
It will be brought forward by 70,000 reigns
And 70,000 angels will be on each of those chains
After burning for a thousand years , it�s flamesturned white
A thousand more years, now it�s as black as the night
You think the flames are bearable, you�re totally wrong
The flames are of hell are sixty nine times as strong
In a flash it will disintegrate all of your bones
The hellfire will be fuelled by man and stones
The thickness of your skin will greatly increase
Causing your threshold for pain to greatly decrease
The people in hell are thereto stay
They will melt to nothing, 70,000 times in a day
70 years it will take, for a stone that is thrown
to hit the bottom of hell and it won�t be alone
The food of hell resembles a devil�s head
and to drink, boiling water and blood bright red
which cuts up the bowels, everything will fall out
the inhabitants of hell will scream and shout
some will be taken out by Almighty Allah �s command
but the polytheists will stay eternally damned
Take up islam , the only way to succeed
and if you don�t, you�re unfortunate indeed
Brothers and sisters, help determine your fate
Once you see hellfire, it�ll be far too late./
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Fire of Hell - It is related that Zainul Abideen would pray one
thousand rakahs every night, even if he were travelling. When he
performed ablution he would turn yellow and during prayer he would
tremble. When asked why this happened to him, he responded, "Do you
not know who I stand before?"If the wind blew he would fall down
unconscious out of the fear of Allah .
Once there was a fire in his house while he was prostrating in prayer.
The people began to warn him,"Oh son of the messenger of Allah, FIRE!
FIRE!" He did not raise his head untill thefire had extinguished
itself.He was later asked why he did not respond to the criesof the
people. He replied "The fire of hell had diverted my attention".
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Dua When Seeing a Fire - اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ
Allah is the Greatest./

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Allah is the owner ofthe whole universe

Allah is the only Creator and power over all the mountains , stars,
planets, both living and non-living things and all the atoms that make
up these objects.
And with Him are the keysof the unseen; none knows them except Him.
And He knows what is on the land and in the sea. Not a leaf falls but
that He knows it. And no grain is there within the darknesses of the
Earth and no moist or dry [thing] but that it is [written] in a clear
record ( Surah Al-An'am, 59).
Just like the verse states , if Allah does not let something happen
nothing can move.
The seven heavens and the Earth and whatever is in them exalt Him.
Andthere is not a thing except that it exalts [ Allah ] by His praise,
but you do not understand their [way of] exalting. Indeed, He is ever
Forbearing and Forgiving (Surat al-Isra, 44).
As we understand from these verses, moving rocks, walking mountains or
drifting continents all do things in remembrance of Allah with His
permission. People can only comprehend this as much as Allah allows.
There are many different worlds other than what we see and feel. But
this world is a test and not everything is open to the human senses.
For example in the paradise all rocks and mountains are living . What
we know as nonliving here could move and talk in the hereafter.
Allah undoubtedly has the power to make somethingliving or non-living.
Because we are in a test here , we can't see many miracles, different
dimensions , or all the aspects of everything. However, there could be
chosen people who are given wisdom and knowledge , seeing and
comprehending all those miracles happening around them. With this
comprehension they would have and even stronger faith , and remember
God with his names and attributes , andbe grateful. This is a gift for
people with faith.
And those who have been given knowledge see that what is revealedto
you from your Lord is the truth, and it guides to the path of the
Exalted in Might, the Praiseworthy ( Surat al-Saba, 6).
Walking rocks is a recent scientific fact. It is a miracle that the
Qur'an informs us of this reality inthe 7th century when the ideas
about the universe and nature was mostly made from superstitions,
baseless beliefs, and myths. It's an important proof that shows the
Qur'an is Allah's word.
Every speck in the universe is a mirror to see Allah's greatness, but
not enough to show His endless power and knowledge. Allah has the best
names and attributes. The things explained in this article are just a
few examples of what we see in the world as a reflection of His Divine
attributes. His knowledge , intellect, power, compassion, generosity,
kindness is infinite. Everybody should show effort to understand
Allah's greatness as much as they can.
Allah's knowledge is so vast that something infinite for humans is
very easy for Him.
From the beginning of time to the infinite , every event to take place
, all thoughts, times, and shapes are determined by him. This truth is
mentioned in the Qur'an with the following verse:
Indeed, all things We created with predestination.And Our command is
but one, like a glance of the eye . And We have already destroyed your
kinds, so is there any who will remember?
And everything they didis in written records. ( Surat al-Qamar,49-52)

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1. How can I start to seek knowledge of hadeeth?

1.
What do you say about the one who wants to seek knowledge of hadeeth?
How should I start? Please note that I have studied 'aqeedah (beliefs)
in depth, praise be to Allah, and now I findmyself inclining a great
deal towards studying hadeeth. I want to start and I need your advice.
Praise be to Allaah.
We may sum up our advice concerning the methodology of seeking
knowledge of hadeeth as follows:
Firstly:
Paying a great deal of attention to memorising the texts of the
Prophet's Sunnah, because this is theaim and purpose for whichthe
scholars established allthe sciences of hadeeth. Soit is not
permissible for theseeker of knowledge to bedistracted from the aim
bythe means.
Memorising the texts of the Prophet's Sunnah begins with memorising
the hadeeths on which there is agreement between the two Saheehs
(al-Bukhaari and Muslim), then by memorising thosewhich were narrated
only by al-Bukhaari, then by memorising those that were narrated only
by Muslim. This will lead to accomplishing the first and most
important stage in forming the hadeeth mentality in the one who is
seeking knowledge of hadeeth.
After that, he moves on to memorising hadeeths thatare extra to those
of the two Saheehs, which are to be found in the six books and the
well-known Musnads. He may seek help in doing so by means of many
books in which these extra reports (zawaa'id) are compiled and
classified.
The best ways of memorising include repeating the text to be memorised
for a few days after the day on which he memorises it. This methodwas
recommended by az-Zarnooshi (may Allah have mercy on him) when he
said:
The seeker of knowledge should recite the text repeatedly because he
willnot be able to memorise properly until he dies that.He should
repeat what he memorised on the previous day five times, and repeat
what he memorised the day beforethat four times, and repeatwhat he
memorised on the day before that three times, and what he memorised on
the day before that two times, andwhat he memorised before that one
time. This will help him to memoriseand repeat. End quote.
Ta'leem at-Ta'allum, p. 60
If the student is not able to memorise completely, then he should do
no less than reading these hadeeths often, so that he will be able to
call them tomind and have a full comprehension of them.
This topic has been discussed in detail previously in the answer to
question no. 113469
Secondly:
It is essential for the seeker of hadeeth knowledge to memorise
different types of isnaads and whatever he can memorise of the names
and biographies of narrators. The isnaads of the Prophet's Sunnah can
be divided – in terms of how well known they are – into three
categories:
1.
Well known isnaads, through any of which hundreds of hadeeths were
narrated and they are regarded as one of themain channels through
which the Prophet's Sunnah came to us. Indeedthere is no book among
the six books that did not rely on them and narrate from many of them.
Examples include:
The isnaad of al-A'mash from Dhakwaan Abu Saalih al-Sammaan, from Abu Hurayrah
The isnaad of az-Zuhri from Abu Salamah ibn 'Abd ar-Rahmaan from Abu Hurayrah.
The isnaad of Hammaad ibn Salamah, from Thaabit ibn Aslam, from Anas.
The isnaad of 'Ubaydullah ibn 'Umar al-'Umari, from Naafi', from Ibn 'Umar.
It is possible to find out about these chains of narration, through
which hundreds of reports were narrated, from the book Tuhfat
al-Ashraaf by Imamal-Mazzi.
The student may also seekhelp in memorising the narrators of these
isnaads from the book Tabaqaat al-Mukthireena min Riwaayat al-Hadeeth
by Shaykh 'Aadil az-Zarqi, with a introduction by 'Abdullah as-Sa'd
(published by Dar Tuwayq).
If the seeker of hadeeth knowledge pays attention to these isnaads and
memorises them, then start to connect these isnaads to the texts that
he has previously memorised from the books of Sunnah, he will thus
have instilled in his mind hundreds of hadeeths with their isnaads. In
this way he willhave started a new stage of acquiring deep knowledge
of this noble science.
2.
The second category is isnaads that are less well-known, through which
dozens of reports were narrated, but they include some well-known
issues such as interruptions in the chain of narration, ambiguity,
omission of the name of the Sahaabi (mural report)and so on. The
student may study some of these isnaads in the book Tuhfatal-Tahseel
by al-'Alaa'i.
If the seeker of knowledgepays attention to these isnaads too, and
learns theproblems associated with these types of isnaads, then he
will achieved a great deal in this branch ofknowledge. :->

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Flavour of Faith

It is related by Abbas bin Adbul Muttalib that he heard the Apostle of
God say: "He tasted the flavour of Faith and experienced itssweetness
who agreed with a truthful heart to accept God as His Cherisher, Islam
as his religion, and Muhammad as his Prophet." [Bukhari]
Commentary:
Just as all delicious foods posses a flavour but can beperceived only
when one's faculty of taste has not been lost or become perverted due
to illness or any other cause, there is also a special sweetness in
faith which can be enjoyed by those alone who have, willingly and
earnestly, made Allah their Lord and Master, Muhammad (PBUH) their
prophet and guide, and Islam their religion and way of life, and whose
hearts have bowed in submission to God and yielded in obedience to
theprophet and assented to bethe adherents of the path of Islam. In
other words, their bond with God, the prophet and Islam is not merely
formal, hereditary or intellectual but real, sincere and genuine.
Anas related to us that "Only he will taste the sweetness of faith who
hasthese three qualities: the love of God and the prophet that comes
to him before everything else, he loves whom he loves solelyfor the
sake of God, and theidea of going back to apostasy after he has
embraced Islam is as repugnant to him as being thrown into fire."
[Bukhari and Muslim]
Commentary:
The subject matter of this tradition is almost identicalto that of
proceeding one. It says that the sweetness of faith can only be
perceived by him whose love for God and the Apostle is stronger that
for anyone or anything else in the world, so much so that when he
loves somebody, it is wholly for the sake of God, and who is so deeply
devoted to the Islamic faiththat the very idea of leaving it and
reverting back to the apostasy is as painful to him as being castinto
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Anti-Islam film: US condemns Pakistan minister's bounty

The US state department has condemned a Pakistani minister's offer of
$100,000 (£61,600) for the death of the American maker of an
anti-Islam film.
It said the step was"inflammatory and inappropriate".
Railways Minister Ghulam Ahmad Bilour made the offer after a wave of
protests against the film across Pakistan and the wider Muslim world.
Dozens have died in clashes between police andprotesters in Pakistan
and countries such as Tunisia and Sudan.
Sunday saw a fresh round of protests over the film in Pakistan,
Nigeria, Greece and Turkey.
Most passed off peacefully, but in the Greek capital Athens, riot
police and demonstrators clashed. Six people were arrested.
A state department official told the BBC: "The president and secretary
of state have both said the video at the core of this is offensive,
disgusting, and reprehensible - but that is no justification for
violence,and it is important for responsible leaders to stand up and
speak out against violence.
"Therefore we find Mr Bilour's announcement is inflammatory and
inappropriate. We note that the prime minister's office has
dissociated itself from his comments."
In hiding
The exact origins of Innocence of Muslims, the low-budget film that
has prompted the unrest, are unclear.
The alleged producer of thetrailer of the film, Nakoula Basseley
Nakoula, is in hiding.
Anti-US sentiment grew after a trailer for the film dubbed into Arabic
was released on YouTube earlier this month.
US citizens have been urged not to travel to Pakistan, and the US
embassy has paid for adverts on Pakistani TV showing President Barack
Obama and Secretary of State Hillary Clinton condemning the film.
Although US targets have borne the brunt of protestsagainst the film,
anti-Western sentiment has been stoked further by caricatures of the
Prophet Muhammad published this week in the satirical Frenchmagazine,
Charlie Hebdo.
France shut embassies and other missions in about 20 countries across
the Muslimworld on Friday.
An 18-year-old man who threatened the magazine's editors on Facebook
has been charged with terrorism-related activity following his arrest
in the southern French city of Toulon, a judicial source told AFP news
agency on Sunday.

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He wants to study genetics; is there anything wrong with that in shar‘i terms?

I am a student in the faculty of sciences and I want to choose a
specialtythat will not conflict with Islam. What do you think of
specialising in genetics?Is it permissible for me to choose this
specialty?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Every branch of knowledge that people need in their religious or
worldly affairs is not forbidden in and of itself with regard to
studying, learning and understanding. But what is of concern is how
this knowledge is used and applied. There is nothing wrong with
studying accountancy – for example– but the problem is with the
practical application ofit in the real life financial world, such as
working in riba-based banks and other institutions. The same may also
be said concerning medicine. It is a branch of knowledge that is very
important and people cannot do without it, but sometimes in real life
it is used for things that are forbidden in Islam, such as cosmetic
surgery for the purpose of beautification, abortions, and so on.
The same may be said concerning the science of genetics, which is
defined in al-Mu'jam al-Waseet (2/1024) as the science which examines
the transmission of characteristics in living beings from one
generation to another andexplaining the way this occurs. It is an
important branch of knowledge, one of the greatest benefits of which
is knowledge of hereditary diseases and how to protect against them
and treat them. It may also be used for beneficial purposes in plants
and animals. But at the same time there is room for those who are
toying with what is called cloning. We have discussed a little about
what is permitted and what is forbidden with regard to cloning and
genetic engineering in the answers to questions no. 103335 and 21582 .
What matters then is not the theoretical study of genetics; rather it
is the practical application thereof. Whatever is permissible and
beneficial is encouraged by Islam, and whatever is haraam and harmful,
is forbidden by Islam.
In a conference of the Islamic Association of Medical Sciences in
Kuwait,which was held under the heading, "Genetics,
GeneticEngineering, the Human Genome and Gene Therapy: an Islamic
View," with the participation of the Islamic Fiqh Council in Jeddah,
the Local Chapter of the World Health Organization in Alexandria, and
the IslamicOrganization for Education, Science and Culture, which was
held during the period 23-25 Jumaada al-Aakhirah 1419AH/13-15 October
1998 CE,the following statement was issued:
Islam is the religion of science and knowledge, asit says in the verse
in which Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"Say: 'Are those who knowequal to those who know not?'"
[al-Zumar 39:2].
Islam does not hold the human mind back from beneficial scientific
research, but it is not permissible for the results of this research
to be put into practice until they have been measured against Islamic
guidelines. Whatever is in accordance with sharee'ah is permitted, and
whatever goes against it is not permitted. The science of genetics
with its various aspects – as with all additions to knowledge – is
something that Islam encourages and Muslim scientists should be in the
forefront of it.
End quote.
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Calcium pills pose 'heart risk'

People who take calcium supplements could be increasing their risk of
having a heart attack, according to researchers in Germany.
Calcium is often taken by older people to strengthen bones and prevent
fractures.
But the study, published in the journal Heart , said the supplements
"should be taken with caution".
Experts say promoting a balanced diet including calcium would be a
better strategy.
The researchers at the German Cancer Research Centre, in Heidelberg,
followed 23,980 people formore than a decade.
They compared the number of heart attacks in people who were taking
calcium supplements with those who did not.
'Taken with caution'
We need to determine whether the potential risks of the supplements
outweigh the benefits calcium can give sufferersof conditions such as
osteoporosis"
Natasha Stewart
British Heart Foundation
There were 851 heart attacks among the 15,959 people who did not take
any supplements at all. However, people taking calcium supplements
were 86% more likely to have had a heart attack during the study.
The researchers said that heart attacks "might be substantially
increased by taking calcium supplements" and that they "should be
taken withcaution".
Dr Carrie Ruxton, from The Health Supplements Information Service
which is funded supplement manufacturers, said:"Osteoporosis is a real
issuefor women and it is irresponsible for scientists to advise that
women cut out calcium supplements on the basis of one flawed survey,
particularly when the link between calcium, vitamin D and bone health
is endorsed by the European Food Safety Authority."
The British Heart Foundation (BHF) said patients prescribed the
supplements should keep taking their medication, but should also speak
to their doctor if they were concerned.
'Not safe'
Natasha Stewart, a senior cardiac nurse with the BHF, said: "This
research indicates that there may bean increased risk of having a
heart attack for people who take calcium supplements.
"However, this does not mean that these supplements cause heart attacks.
"Further research is neededto shed light on the relationship between
calcium supplements and heart health. We need to determine whether the
potential risks of the supplements outweigh the benefits calcium can
give sufferers of conditions suchas osteoporosis."
Ian Reid and Mark Bolland, researchers at the University of Auckland
in New Zealand, said: "The evidence is also becoming steadily stronger
that it is not safe, nor is it particularly effective.
"Therefore, the administration of this micro nutrient should not be
encouraged; rather people should be advised to obtain their calcium
intake from an appropriately balanced diet.
"We should return to seeing calcium as an important component of a
balanced diet and not as a low cost panacea to the universal problem
of postmenopausal bone loss."
A spokeswoman for the UK's Department of Health said it would consider
the study carefully once the complete article had been published.
"The majority of people do not need to take a calcium supplement," she said.
"A healthy balanced diet will provide all the nutrients, including
calcium, that they need. Good sources of calcium include milk and
dairy foods, fortified dairy food alternatives, e.g. soya drink, and
green leafy vegetables."

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Key Advice for the Newly Wed

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ‏‎ -‎
Based on the advices of Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat
prepared by Brother Aslam Patel
"You have never seen anything better than marriage for those who
love." (Ibne Mãjah)
Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat dãmat barakãtuhum advises:
1 . Every action is dependant upon intention. When marrying, both
partners should therefore make a firm intention to accomplish the
following objectives:
*. Following the Sunnah of our beloved Nabee Muhammad s.
*. Safeguarding oneself from sins.
*. Parenting pious children.
2 . When marrying, each becomes the other's lifetime companion. Each
should understand and appreciate that Allah S has brought them both
together and that their destiny in life has now become one. Whatever
thecircumstances: happiness or sorrow; health or sickness; wealth or
poverty; comfort or hardship; trial or ease; all events are to be
confronted together as a team with mutual affectionand respect. No
matter how wealthy, affluent, materially prosperous and "better-off"
another couplemay appear, one's circumstances are to be happily
accepted with qanã'at ( contentment uponthe Choice of Allah S). The
wife should happily accept her husband, his home andincome as her lot
and should always feel that herhusband is her true beloved and best
friend and well-wisher in all family decisions. The husband too should
accept his wife as his partner-for-life and not cast a glance towards
another.
3 . Nowadays, the husband reads about, and is well-informed of his
rights and demands them. Similarly, the wife reads of her rights and
expects them. However, both should concentrate on being aware of each
other's rights and then strive to fulfil them. This is the
prescription for a prosperous marriage and everlasting love.
4 . During the first year of marriage, the couple must try and spend
as much time as possible together. This is especially true for the
first two months as it provides an opportunity tounderstand each
other's temperaments and establishes a firm foundation which
contributes towards securing a prosperous marriage.
5 . The couple (especially the husband) must make a point to arrive
home early after 'Ishã Salãh and scrupulously avoid the habit of
socialising with friends late into the evening. Wherever possible,
business, employment and other activities should be concluded
beforehand or curtailed in order to set aside time for spending
together.
6 . Mutual respect between husband and wife should not be lost. They
should each be very particular about following the Deen right from the
initial stagesof married life. This will also ensure a religious
environment for the children to be nurtured in, contributing greatly
towards their successful upbringing.
7 . True and everlasting prosperity is only possible for Muslims when
they follow the Sunnah of Rasoolullah s in all affairs. The couple
too, should adhere to the teachings of Rasoolullah s in all their
matters and abstain from anything which contradictsthem. Careful
attention should be given to this in their intimate relationship too.
Inshã'allah this will be an assured approach to acquiring the blessing
of pious offspring.
8 . In the initial stages of marriage, the love between the couple is
a physical bond, wherein emotional changes take place all the time.
Despite great passion and physical love for each other, affection
between the couple is not yet well established or on a rationalbasis.
Such rational love comes after many years together. It is therefore
extremely important for the husband not to succumb to emotional
weaknesses at the onset and let the marriage wavertowards an
irreligious direction. Both the husband and wife should make a pledge
to each other to steadfastly follow the Deen, especially in the
performance of Salãh and in avoiding all sins.
9 . Marriage is like the weather, forever changing. Sometimes it is
cloudy and rainy, life appears gloomy, then the sun appears and rays
of happiness break through bringing joy. At times, one experiences
rain, wind and sunshine all in one day. Such is life, and like the
seasons, we go through different experiences. The secret is to remain
devoted and steadfast to one's Deen and spouse.
10 . The husband should besympathetic to the fact that his wife has
left her parents, brothers and sisters to start a new life with him.
Her sacrifice and her feelings should be respected and joy should be
felt by both partners at the expansion of their families.
Just as the wife should treat her husband's parentsas her own, he
should also extend affection, courtesy and respect to his new in-laws.

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